~Whenever I saw him~

He is :

Whenever I saw him, I would say: He is the most handsome of men
When he spoke, I would say: He is the most eloquent of men
When he held a conversation, I would say: He is the most knowledgeable of men…


He is :

Whenever I saw him, I would say : He is the most horrible of men
When he spoke, I would say : He is shooting the poison arrow
When he held a conversation, I would say : He make the world seem so small
He snatches smiles from your face…
He seem a man who never see the world..
Whenever you sit with him you feel want to fight him..
He is the worse person who hide his sins

This paragraph is the saying of Masruq ibn al Ajda about the beloved prophet companion…..Abdullah ibn Abbas radiyallahu an.. a young man with the ocean knowledge … The best picture of a young Moslem man that was found in his beautiful character…his respect to the older companions…his spirit to collect knowledge and his present who always enlighten other.

In contrary the second paragraph is the saying of my friend… that his impression about some Moslem people nowadays…He closed those sentences by saying…. “I want to let you know that I do not want you be one of them”….. “ Ataghfiruka wa atubu ilaika…

He said that for reason… perhaps that the real picture of our young Moslem nowadays… wallahu alam…

Indeed we lack of knowledgeable people who really practice what they preach, who really talk from bottom of heart, who are not only eloquence in speech but also practise, not only on tongue but the values also dominate and control their heart and mind …… There are many who in the high spirit to fight the bid’ah, inviting to the right aqeedah, but conduct the “rude”, “harsh” way, cursing, and stripping all the detail of aib his brother in front of many people [contrast with the way Rasulullah sallaAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam invited people to monotheism].

Rasullah sallahu alaihi wassalam our qudwah said :

“The religion is easy and whosoever will deal with religion harshly, it will defeat him. So be straight, follow the middle course, give good news and seek help by moving in the morning or the evening or part of the night.” [HR Bukhari ]

Allah subhana wata’ala says : Thus have We made of you a Middle Ummah, that you might be witnesses over the people, and the Messenger a witness over yourselves… [Qur’an al-Baqarah 2:143]

There are many of young Moslem who spend their day and night to spread fitnah, to curse, to judge, name calling, each other instead prepare to wake up earlier in the 1/3rd last of night. they miss their time to do tagharub with their Lord… they miss the time to refresh their soul with tilawah…with nawafil.. Hence whatever they said would be felt as an arrangement of empty words that touch nowhere… said things without soul.. But leave more confusion and caste the shadow inside other heart.

MashaAllah May Allah safe all of us from make the difficulty for other…. As Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wassalam said :

‘Whoever does a good deed in order to show off, Allaah will expose his intentions on the Day of Ressurection (before the people), and whoever puts the people into difficulties, Allaah will put him into difficulties on the Day of Ressurection.” [HR Bukhari]

Rasullullah sallaAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam is the best qudwah, he used to smiling even accept so many insults, he prayed for the hidayah of people who hurt him, never even once came out from his mouth any rude words, bad words, cursing, which hurt anyone. He is indeed rahmatan lil alamin.

Ya Allaah may we are not belong to one of them who is overly concerned with criticizing others, trying to retain perfection for himself deny any distinction for others. A person who obsessed with the deficiencies of others and finds a great deal of pleasure and happiness in criticizing other people, who follow others’ minutest shortcomings and are extremely proficient in publicizing them. This type of person is like a fly that lands only on open wounds. nauzubillah

O you who have spoken the words of faith but faith has not entered your hearts! Do not backbite about the Muslims or seek our their faults, for whoever seeks out their faults, Allaah will seek out his faults even if he is his house.” [HR Abu Dawood]

Abud-Darda'a relates that the Prophet (SAWS) said: "There is nothing that will be heavier in the Believer's scales, on the Day of Judgement, than good character. Indeed Allaah hates the wicked and the ill-mouthed person." [HR Abu Dawood]

When I came across my brothers with high temperament / rude nature..… I always imagine myself hopefully/wishing I would find Umar bin khatab [r.a] inside that person. Every harsh people always take Umar as their role model… Umar did this .. Umar did that… [this what my friend said....]

I love Umar bin Khatab… I always curious by the rudenss of this ummah… I read his biography many times… I wish to know Umar to understand umar in these time very well… then I hope I can understand the harsh of my dear brothers and sisters in islam…

But the more I know about Umar radiyallahuan… the more I feel it so far different….. Umar has high temperament .. but his rudeness made syaithan run away avoid to meet him [not his beloved ones]…he is the most consistent, confidence, honest, sincere person in practicing his deen, inside he has a very tender heart with a great empathy, a great leader who didn’t mind to suffer and starving with his people, a great leader who wouldn’t sleep before sure the comfort of his people, walked in the night to bring food for his people himself. Someone who known brave in front of enemy, loved and respected by friends, but didn’t shy to sleep on the lap of his wife like a spoiled child… gentle and treat them with mercy……and only crying in front of his Lord Allaah subhana wata’ala ……..

Narrated Abu Hurairah r.a.: The Prophet said, "Among the nation (who lived) before you from Bani Israel, there were men who used to be inspired with guidance, though they were not Prophets, and if there is any of such persons amongst my followers, it is Umar." [HR Bukhari]

Allaah's Messenger said, "O Ibn Al Khattab! By Him in Whose Hand my soul is, whenever Shaitan (Satan) sees you taking a way, he follow a way other than yours!" [HR Bukhari]

That’s Umar that I know.. the umar that I admire dearly… the figure that wish I find in every young Moslem...to take the example his real quality…

When this ummah start to talk about something.. They also start fight each other… to force each of their opinion… seem like uncivilized people who do not know how to carry on an intellectual discussion….

The spirit to spread the truth … doesn’t mean have to accompanied by the rudeness… Allah subhana wat’ala say :

It is part of the Mercy of Allah that thou dost deal gently with them Wert thou severe or harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about thee: so pass over (Their faults), and ask for ((Allah)'s) forgiveness for them; and consult them in affairs (of moment). Then, when thou hast Taken a decision put thy trust in Allah. For Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him). [Qur’an Ali Imran : 159]

The rudeness will not bring anywhere… they will run away… it also will be our fault have make the other run from the truth because we adopt the wrong way …

Rasulullah sallahu alaihi wassalam lived in Macca for 13 years among disbelievers who every day prostrate to their idols… but there is none in the history we hear one of those idols disappear or even nor we hear they lost their ears, nose during those 13 years …. But Rasulullah who has the akhlaq of Qur’an choose to win their heart with the beautiful character, introduce the truth teaching of Islam beautifully… then one day when the truth has been filled their heart.. they who destroy those idols themselves… Subahanallah.. indeed such genius approach

There is one hadist that gave profound effect to me….It was Narrated by Imam Ahmad… one day a young man come to Rasulullah sallahu alaihi wassalam… there was very interesting dialog between Rasulullah sallahu alaihi wassalam with that man…

That young man said :

‘O Messenger of Allaah, grant me permission to commit zinaa.’

The people turned to him and told him off, saying, ‘Ssh!’

The Prophet sallaAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said: ‘Come closer,’ so he came closer.
He told him, ‘Sit down,’ so he sat down.
He asked him, ‘Would you like this for your mother?’
He said, ‘No, by Allaah, O Messenger of Allaah. May Allaah cause me to be sacrificed for you!’
He said: ‘No people would like it for their mothers.’
He asked him, ‘Would you like this for your daughter?’
He said, ‘No, by Allaah, O Messenger of Allaah. May Allaah cause me to be sacrificed for you!’
He said: ‘No people would like it for their daughters.’
He asked him, ‘Would you like this for your sister?’
He said, ‘No, by Allaah, O Messenger of Allaah. May Allaah cause me to be sacrificed for you!’
He said: ‘No people would like it for their sisters.’
He asked him, ‘Would you like this for your paternal aunt?’
He said, ‘No, by Allaah, O Messenger of Allaah. May Allaah cause me to be sacrificed for you!’
He said: ‘No people would like it for their paternal aunts.’
He asked him, ‘Would you like this for your maternal aunt?’
He said, ‘No, by Allaah, O Messenger of Allaah. May Allaah cause me to be sacrificed for you!’
He said: ‘No people would like it for their maternal aunts.’

Rasulullah sallahu alaihi wassalam put his hand on him and said: ‘O Allaah, forgive him his sin, purify his heart and make him chaste.’ After that, the young man never paid attention to anything of that nature.”

SubhanAllaah we know zina is very grave sin… but we see how Rasulullah sallaAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam didn’t turn in rage when he face such “silly” question [he didn’t turn to be rude, harsh]. Rasulullah sallaAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam knows very well the physiology of young man, the urge to commit zina must be very challenge. Instead yell and judge at him in front of people, he asked that young man came closer and advise him with wisdom and with very beautiful preaching…

MashaAllaah there are many examples how Rasulullah sallaAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam deal with companions, enemies, anytime I review his sirah, it make me feel so shy to admit myself as his follower. His follower must follow his sunnah, imitate his beautiful characters…. Do we deserve called as his follower in fact we abandon his sunnah, far away imitate his beautiful characters… astaghfirullah…

Allah subhana wat’ala gives us the example how to win other heart… this example we can see how Allaah made haram khamar through step by step revelation.

The first verse, Allaah only said “it’s great sin, and some profit, for men; but the sin is greater than the profit."

They ask thee concerning wine and gambling. Say: "In them is great sin, and some profit, for men; but the sin is greater than the profit." …… [Qur'an Al Baqaraah 2:219]

Then He sent another verse that harder than the first

O ye who believe! Approach not prayers with a mind befogged, until ye can understand all that ye say,-…….[Qur'an An Nisa' 4:43]

Asbabul nuzul that verse [according hadist from Abu Dawood, at tarmidhi, an Nasa’I and Al Hakim] Abdurrahman bin Auf [r.a] invited some companions to eat in his house and he served some khamar, when the prayer called they went to pray in congregation, Ali bin Abi thalib lead the prayer, but because of the effect of the khamar he read the verse Al Kafirun in the wrong way, from this incident Allaah subhana wata’ala sent that verse to forbid anyone approach prayers with a mind befogged…

Then finally Allaah makes it [khamar] haram…

O ye who believe! Intoxicants and gambling, (dedication of) stones, and (divination by) arrows, are an abomination,- of Satan's handwork: eschew such (abomination), that ye may prosper. [Qur'an Al Maidah 5:90]

According some mufasir, this is a wisdom of Allaah. Allaah knows the nature and the situation of Arab people at that time. Khamar liked a tradition and be big part of their life. Allaah forbids it little by little [step by step] until they all ready to abandon that totally…. Wallahualam bishshowab…[May Allaah forgive me if I understand it wrongly… ]

Allaah the most powerful the Almighty one, He advice us very beautifully.. step by step… [Wallhualam bishshowab]

Rasulullah sallahu alaihi wasslam also advice us to talk with the language of people who we are talking with… we have to down to earth… We cant straight the way to say this is haram.. this is haram… this is haram.. without any prolog and no sufficient explanation…

May bless us more with knowlege about this deen then “at least” We can help ourselves to get the best understating among the confusion that created by many “knowledgeable people”. Lets we cry in front of Our Lord in the end of night… begging Allaah gift us the ability to understand the essence and the wisdom of knowledge…

May Allah safe our tongue our heart, our mind from create the shadow into anyone life...

Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaik
Rytha
Batam 9 April 2006