Wednesday, September 12, 2007

~Romantic Husband~

This writing to enlighten my sisters in Islam, to make them feel optimist if there are still good Muslim husbands among of them who mischief and cheat behind their wife….

Although haram love Affair spreading in our community we can’t generalize if all man are just the same, accuses all of them are hypocrite… astaghfirullah…

One sister told me

How wonderful her husband…
That day they visited a place outside the city.. They were late and missed the last bus…..So they had to walk home….

She felt so much tired and begged him to get rest for few minutes…Her husband said… she would die if she stop, she has to keep moving because the weather was so cold…keep moving will keep them warm…But she stopped and just couldn’t walk again…

Sisters.. You know what her husband did ?
He carried her [if not wrong he carried her on his back]….
That was quite long walk…She felt sorry for him.. and asked her husband to let her down…

But he said…
“No…it's a practice to me…. It's practice for jihad.. if one day I go for jihad and I have to carry my injury brother, how could I feel tired and left him down…”

MashaAllah…so sweet…

Another sister shared me…

That day she was sick, she got vomit so many times….Her husband beside her whole day and night to take care of her, he lost his sleep…He patiently cleaned all what she vomit from her stomach without feel any disgust, in fact she herself feel so much disgust.

He carried her on his hands while she felt so much heavy to walk herself…..

She said to me… that one great thing if marrying a pious husband who love you… he will always take care of you…and always feel pain that you feel…

Another sister
She was in very nervous because her husband came home late..She called all people that she know to ask if they know where her husband.

What was inside her mind was very worry, not suspicious feeling. Because after years of their marriage never once he came late without inform her…That was the first time.

Alhamdulillah her husband finally came up. That day there was heavy rain…he was stuck in somewhere, he couldn’t call his wife because her cellular low battery.

They have so wonderful life. They share all things…, they use the same cellular number, use the same email address. Never let any secret behind… They like two bodies one soul who share all things together…


Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam said that " the Believers who show the most perfect Faith are those who have the best behavior, and the best of you are those who are the best to their wives." [At- Tirmidhi]. Narrated by Abu Hurairah

See sisters…..
The good man indeed still exists…
Some of them already married…. :)..
But inshaAllah be patience… Allah will make you meet one of them soon….

"……Our Lord! Grant unto us spouse and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous." Ameen

Batam 14 March 2007

Monday, September 10, 2007

~Our Prayers – Part 2~

Why those sisters prayed earlier for fajr in the airport?

Maybe they thought, they were in the state of traveling so it’s allowed to pray earlier.

Maybe they had to board into the airplane soon…so that they thought It’s better to pray earlier compare than not pray fajr at all…


As short as my understanding, it is not allowed to pray earlier although we are in the state of traveling. There are some Rukhshah [ease] that Allah gives for travelers, but it’s not to pray earlier than its prescribed time.

We are allowed to gather and shorten prayer during traveling, but they have to be done in its prescribed time. When we want to gather and shorten Dhur and Ashr, we do it in the time of Dhur or Ashr. When we want to gather Maghrib and Isha, we do it in the time of Maghrib or Isha.

We indeed have to be very mindful and careful to care our fajr time, because we can’t gather fajr with any other prayer and the time of fajr is quite short.

Allah gives us so much ease. There are no reasons to do something or create something outside of this deen…

In previous situation, actually those sisters could pray in waiting room before board to airplane, because the journeys with airplane usually it’s required about one hour or even 2 hours to check in before boarding. It‘s sufficient time to pray first.

We can pray anywhere, the scholars only made very few exceptions where we can’t pray such as graveyard and lavatories. Even if one can find no other place than a church, it is permissible to pray in it. Wallahualam.

Just in case the fajr time just starts when we are already in the airplane, we are allowed to pray inside the airplane, because it is allowed to pray on moving vehicle.

Before board to the airplane we can take abolition in the toilet. It will be so much ease if we always try to have wudhu whenever we depart from home. So that when we get into the airplane we already have wudhu. We can pray in our seat in any direction during our flight….inshaAllah…

Just in case we break our wudhu, we may do tayamum… if we can’t find dust [usually no dust on airplane], we still can pray with any condition [even with no wudhu], but according to my experience had national and international flights, it always available water in the toilet.

The same case when we have travel by train and bus. If we are traveling use private car we can stop and pray on the side of road if can’t find masjid along the road.

If only we couldn’t catch the airplane or the bus or the train or reach the destination in late because we perform prayer first…For true a believer it should be more lightly compare than depart from A place but with waswas if they will find chance to pray during the journey or even worse miss the prayer times…

The feeling of missing one single prayer it just can’t be replaceable by anything in this world. The regret and guilty feeling will keep haunted the heart of believers…

Alhamdulillah I ever prayed on the airplane, on the ship, on the bus, on the train, in the airport at non Moslem country, in a port at non Moslem country, etc… People around only watch, some of them did not care, some of them only wondering.. All have to do, just be calm, be normal and give them smiles if they still look at you after finish praying…. It’s good if they ask further, it’s a chance for da’wah for non Moslem. InshaAllah through our actions it’s also a chance of da’wah to encourage our Moslem brothers and sister who feelings shy to show their identity as Moslem which actually that kind of shyness prevent them to do their obligation as Moslems…

Rasulullah sallahu alaihi wassalam said: “If I command you to do a thing, do as much of it as you can.” Narrated by Muslim (1337).

Rasulullah salallahu alahi wassalam even prayed sunnah on his camel…

Subhanallah …this deen is so easy….This deen already completed, there is no room for innovation and creativeness in the matter of ibadah….wallahualam…

“So keep your duty to Allaah and fear Him as much as you can” [al-Taghaabun 64:16].

Lahaula walla quwata illa billah…

To be continue inshaAllah….

Rytha N
Batam 4 September 2007

*Writing make me read*
*Read make me learning new things*


For Advance Reading Please Check the Scholars fatwa bellow

They knew that they would miss the prayer on the plane so they prayed a few minutes before the time for it began

Praying in a moving vehicle

Praying on a plane when one is unable to stand or face the qiblah

How should a passenger on an airplane do wudoo’ if there is no water?

Wednesday, September 05, 2007

~Our Prayers – Part 1~

I arrived in the airport earlier because it would give time to pray fajr before boarding. I went to nearby prayer room in the airport, fajr time was still long. I started reading the Qur’an waited for fajr. Some muslimah came in. They took wudhu, and then prayed…

At first I thought mashaAllah they were praying for sunnah [Qiyamul lail]. But when they left straight away after the pray I started wondering…Did they just pray fajr? What’s time now? I asked a sister next to me… It was about one hour more to fajr time…

After some times, one lady came in, she approached me and asked what time for fajr…I told her the time for fajr is after 15 minutes. She paused for sometimes…. But she saw some other muslimah praying…she started pray fajr too….astaghfirullah…..

In another day…. I had my flight just close to my boarding time…Before depart from the place I stay; I asked my companion if we would find place for pray fajr in airport…. He said… “You just pray now before we leave”… I replied…”It’s still not reach the fajr time”… He said… “Just pray and don’t take risk if we have chance in airport we can pray again “…. Astaghfirullah, May Allah forgives him …..

Alhamdulillah I could pray fajr in airport – in the corner of waiting room.

I believe many of us facing this kind of situations. Not only about the traveling but also the exams, meetings, etc that started earlier than prayer times

Allah subhana wa ta’ala say : “Verily, As-Salaah (the prayer) is enjoined on the believers at fixed hours” [al-Nisa’ 4:103]

It is permissible to offer the prayer at any point within the time for each prayer, whether at the beginning, in the middle or at the end, the best is in the beginning… but prayer earlier before the time, it is “totally” impermissible. If we do it consciously, our pray will not valid and we are also not free from sins. If we do it because we do not know it still not come to prayer time… we should repeat our pray when we realize we did pray not in time… wallahuam.. .

We sometimes make an excuse that It's better to do it earlier rather than not pray at all, say Allah the most Gracious, Allah is very understanding, He will forgive us….

In fact, doing something only based on good intentions but with no basis it won’t be accepted. Allah already made the rules, through His messenger sallahu alahi wassalam He gives us clear guidances…. So there will be no excuse if we do something outside the guidance… it means we disobey Him and make our own rules……

However Allah never burdens His slaves over than their abilities…

Allah knows best.

To be continue inshaAllah….

Rytha N
Batam 4 September 2007

Monday, September 03, 2007

~Expect & respect your Wife jealousy Part 3 ~

Assallammu’alaikum warohmatullahi wabarokatuh

Aishah…My Dear sweetheart…

Thank you dear for clearly explanation to help me understand your feelings.

Dear...... please forgive me for all trouble you felt. I promise inshaAllah will never do anything that trouble you anymore. I will try my best to give you feeling the secure of love without any doubt. There will be no space for syaithan to whisper any waswas to caste any doubt inside your heart. Your happiness will be mine… Only with your pleasure and content we will feel the blessing of this marriage to make us feel the real life of tranquility.

You are my soul partner, the closest person in my life, and true companion who always be the mirror of me… a mirror that will always correct me whenever you find something mistake with me… you will clean my mirror if there is black spot on its surface, because if you ignore those spots you cant see your true reflection clearly yourself, it's a failure as a spouse when we cant help our spouse to keep in his/her right track.

Dear… I need you always to help me to understand what you think.. What you need… what make you happy… I need you to pull me back if I am going to off the track. Please correct me politely with all your tenderness and wisdom.

There is something that I want to tell you…

You are the first woman that I know closely but my own mother and my little sister. Marriage suddenly make me have to learn about woman… an unique creature… mashaAllah a lot that I have to learn and to explore….

It's hardly to guess what inside your mind…. you cry when you are sad, you also cry when you are happy.... Sometimes you hardly saying something in a day… but in another day you could talk whole days… mashaAllah…

In your pregnancy time, things go harder to me dear…. Your mood swing often, fluctuations from sweet to the gloomy…

Suddenly you get so much sensitive about anything…. You even look sensitive about your changing body shape. Do you realize how many times a day you go in front of mirror and explore your tummy and ask me many time… how you look like?… I assure you dear… you look great and still gorgeous all the time… I am not lying… pregnancy make you look more fresh and beautiful… your chubby cheek make you look more cute and sweet… Be confident with yourself dear…. Be confident with our bond of love that will be never fade with superficial things.. inshaAllah…

Sometimes you were being so much jealousy… I do assure you that you the only woman in my heart. You fill my days with so much love and care till there is no space remains for other…Your true attention and sincere care help me a lot to keep me strongger from the temptations outside…

Dear..... sometimes I just can’t comprehend why you ask so many times in a day if I love you… How much I love you. It sometimes made me worry if you still doubt with my love? Have I given you with sufficient care and attention?…. I admit sometimes I was so much busy and I might lack of attention, but there is no time that pass but with keep you always in my thoughts…

Dear…. It is a great blessing from Allah to make you be my wife. The most precious treasure, the best joy in my life….... I will inshaAllah try to care this trust to be your qowam…

Honestly, I must feel so bad if I know my dear wife keep talking about the other man. I feel so much humiliate even for slightly thing that touch your honor and chastity. You are treasure to me more than any precious treasure on this earth because you – my virtuous wife is the most precious treasure in this earth that Allah has blessed to me…alhamdulillah.

I feel so much jealous even to see other seeing your beautiful face, alhamdulillah I am very grateful you understand my ghirah and never reveal your beauty but for me…never connect with any non Mahram behind my back…always caring your chastity during my absent…

How could I expect something from my dear when I even can’t give the same from you.

This marriage already bonded our soul to be one. There will be no privacy, no secrete that I want to keep from you. All what my belonging will be yours.… You may company me wherever I go, especially when I have to go out of city that will keep me pure and secure. This is the tradition of our salaf, they always had their wife companion even when they went to jihad.

Dear.... you can manage my bank account, as you are my financial adviser, this is one of responsibility of a righteous wife to care her husband wealth … All my belongings will be yours…..You can read all my books..You may bring my cellular when you visit your parents’ house.....You have all privilege to explore my laptop, open my files, my emails, and do anything you like with them… You may use my messengers and delete anyone that you don’t like to be on my buddy list, you can make sure there will be non mahram sisters listed there if their presents could give a space of syaithan to create doubt in your heart.

I give you all the privilege to get into details of my life. I trust you.... You are my dear wife…. There is nothing that I want to hide from you….. There will be no secret between us…..Nothing that you do not know about me…InshaAllah…

Please tell me if I missed something…

You may tell any request what you like I do…. I must try to approve all what you want …… When a man happy that only happiness for himself…but when a woman happy that mean all people will be happy …I will try my best to keep you happy and content….

I love you sweet heart….You inshaAllah will be my eternal behalf….Please keep shining like the moon for my dark night… Be always as the sun of the days….You are the best joy in the life .. The best gift that Allah bless to me…..

Yours forever

To be continues inshaAllah…..
Batam 7 May 2007
Rytha N