A great person……A strong person… always cry in front of Him…. Every drop of tear in your prays to Him will relief your heart, will heal your broken heart… will clean your soul and will liberate you life…..
Allah put you in that situation must be for reason. Allah must want make you learn to respect more about your life…. perhaps Allah wants to test your patience… Allah wants to remind you… or perhaps that calamity for pay your owe because of some particular sins you did [because sins are owe that we have to pay someday…]….
If you decide to involve in things… there are must be the consequences…. Consequences that have to be considered at very first before steps in one adventure…. At least ready to responsible to every step of your actions….. and get hurt that one of the consequences….
The pain that you feel will make you respect your life, a precious experience that caste you become a compassion person…. teach you if you cant do the same to other…because you already known how it feel… you will have a gift to help other to remind them from heart to not experience the same pain like yours….
In the same time, you should ask yourself about your sincerity…. Did you really base your action in sincerity… You should ask ...what wrong with you intentions…. If you do something for the sake of Allah why you feel hurt and pain if things not go like what you dream?
If someone hurt you… that a precious time where Allah will answer every of your pray [ Allah will answer pray of people who are oppressed]…. That also a precious time to gain big reward by forgive and pray every good thing for ones who hurt you….
When we feel other did hurt us and oppressed us, be careful with our prays because Rasulullah SAW said "Be afraid, from the curse of the oppressed as there is no screen between his invocation and Allah." [HR BUKHARI] , sometimes in anger we tend to prays bad things happened to the oppressors.
What if Allah answers that pray [ in fact perhaps the one who hurt us are our dear ones ...our close friends, parents, relatives or people that we love… ].
Each time of painful words, actions of that person haunting in your mind... each time tear drops... each time your feel the same bitterness and pains.......Never forget to ask forgiveness for the person who hurt you…force your lips to pray for his/her goodness.... to ask forgiveness for him/her...........Because each time you feel that pains...that person also get more sins of hurting you......
They would get the consequence of their bad deeds to Allah subhana wata'ala .... Forgiveness with help you to cure your heart.... May Allah will record that as the righteous deeds, insyaAllah…
Indeed it’s very difficult to forgive when we are be a victim…indeed it’s difficult to forgive when our heart hurt… difficult to be sincere when our heart sick… But it’s a journey….. the jannah not that easy to gain…. .
Finally…. As far what you did based on sincerity…. As far you have tried your best whole heartly…. If things not work… remember Allah must have other plans… better plan…. insyaAllah…. Please forgive and forget…. This will help you a lot… insyaAllah….
Wallahu alam bishshowab…..
Bandung, Sun, 16 Oct 2005
Note : Someone made very beutiful editing of this writing. Please check here
Jazakillahu khair ..... I find this version in some other sites.....that made me remember if i ever wrote this :)
I post here the original with some addition and editing.....