~ The Accident ~

Allah subhana wata’ala tested our family by my brother accident. Saw half of his face swollen and the blood from his broken teeth was so heartbroken. Saw how he tried to smiles, offered jokes, said he was Okay just to stop my mother crying was really painfully. Saw him entered the surgery room was really frightened. Waiting him in the ICU was the most anxious moment; Afraid what if the docter made the mistake…. Worry if he will recover….The most… I afraid to lose him more than anything…

I stared my mom …I thought all the beloved ones. I realized no matter how much I love them… I am going to lost them…. Some lost because of misunderstandings, some lost because the destiny apart us, some lost because of the time and the distance and for sure one day the death will take away one by one all the beloved ones. It’s only about the time, who are going to leave first… But nobody ready to bear this feeling, even just to think of this…….

Being surrounded sick people..made me thought about death much........Death is something that must. Allah says "Every soul shall have a taste of death....."[1]. Allah subhanawata’ala says that "Wherever you are, death will find you out. Even if you are in towers built up strong and high."[2]

But Why we often forget it.... We love this world so much that make our heart reluctant to leave this world. We occupy our mind with the illusions and worldly hopes to enjoy the life and expecting to change when older…thinking that the death comes only to old people.

If we must die, how we will die? In what way we will die? Will we be accompanied by the beloved ones or will we die alone? Will anyone care to lead us to remember Allah subhana wat’ala at the end of our life? Is there anyone who cares to recite the Qur’an and guide us to read "la ilaha ilallah" in the coma times? Is there anyone who will hold our hands, touch our hair gently recite the do’a[3] in the most crucial moment in our life, the critical moment?

Suddenly, I could feel the regret of them who hasn’t spent their best time with their beloved until the days are too late to regret. How many often one feel this regret, but the regret not last forever, often it is just for few moments until the cruel of egoism conquer us again and again….and the close ones who always bear the worse behavior of us….

In the hospital, I saw the death and how people face it, closely. I saw people dead one by one in very short time. The most grieve path when saw how the family didn’t know what to do but waiting the time; the hopeless that accompanied by crying and complaining. It was so scared to hear someone asked for the death injection[4], to heard the screams, the complaints but none mention the name of Allah at all… astaghirullah na’uzubillah….

When the lugs are too pain, When take a breath is like a hard struggle, when there are many small hose around the nose, through the throat, will it so hard to remember if Rasulullah sallahu alaihi wassalam said: "No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that." [5] No Muslim is afflicted with any harm, even if it were the prick of a thorn, but that Allah expiates his sins because of that, as a tree sheds its leaves."[6], ? astaghfirullah….lahaula walla quwata illa billah…..

Accompanied my brother, made me realize the comfort to be surrounded by the close and beloved people….families….friends… Here is things that I think we can do when we are waiting the sick person[7]

Visiting the sick is an obligation for Moslem, and Allah will get the best reward.[8] The sick person needs mental support from the close ones. Always spend time with him. Help him to recognize people who come to visit. When he was coma or slept, inform him who was/is coming and what their messages to him. It will make him happy because he felt people care of him.

Hold his hand. Caress his forehead, touch hair gently with love. Recite some Ruqyah verses… some al Ma’surat do’a….

Recite the dzikir. At least manage to recite morning and evening dzikir from Qur’an and shahih hadist. If we can find out what kind of ma’surat do’a that he recites daily, it will help him more. I mean help him to remember his routine. Some people feel so sad and feel bad if he leave his routine.

Recite the qur’an as often as possible, especially at his coma time. At that time he will not able to read anything... but he still can hear our voice if we recite some ayah close to him.... He need close to the letter from Allah, [the Qur'an] they feel close to the death, the recitation can fill his soul, to make him remember to istighfar... to make him stronger...lead him to the tauhid la ilaha ilallah all time.

However...all of us know losing the close and beloved on is an unbearable feeling. One day for sure we will lose them.... But it shouldn’t stop us to love and share our love to more people. The reliance that we have short time shouldn’t stop us to love, but rather to give our best time and love to them…. At time we decide to love, we also have to ready to let them go. They do not belong to us; they belong to Allah. Anytime, when He wishes He has the right to take them back….

The awareness if the time short should make us realize if we should do the best in every second of our life…. to be close with them in every moment... especially when they are sick and need our support

Lahaula walla quwata illa billah

wallahualam bishshowab...

Rytha
Medan 11 January 2006




[1] [Qur’an : Ali-Imran 3:185]
[2] [Qur’an An- Nisa 4:78]
[3] The du’a from the Qur’an and Hadist.
[4] Euthanasia is not allowed in Islam. Islam considers humanlife sacred. Life is to be protected and promoted as much as possible. It is the duty of the doctors, patient’s relatives and the state to take care of the sick and to do their best to reduce the pain and suffering of the sick, but they are not allowed under any circumstances to kill the sick person. The sick person also should patiently endure the pain and should pray to Allah. If he/she is patient, there will be a great reward and blessing for him/her in the eternal life.*
* “There is nothing that befalls a believer,not even a thorn that pricks him,but Allaah will record one good deed for him and will remove one bad deed from him.” [HR Muslim]
[5] [Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.545 Narrated by Abu Said Al Khudri and Abu Huraira]
[6] [Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.551 Narrated by Abdullah]
[7] Mostly based on personal experiences.... please just take what you think according the Qur’an and Sunnah....
[8] "Verily, when a Muslim visits his sick Muslim brother, he is, as it were, in one of the gardens of Paradise (enjoying its ripe fruits) until he returns to his home." [Sahih Muslim Hadith 6227 Narrated byThawban]