~For all My Dear brothers and My Dear sisters part 2~

Part I I


My dear sisters….
Allah gifts a lot of special blessings…
Allah trusts you to carry “rahim” [womb]…
That makes your nature different…
Makes you full of affection,
Your touch is tenderness,
You smile is sweetness..
You are an amazing beautiful creation
You are a charming creation
Your graceful movement
Your “killing” smiles

You are beautiful
Always beautiful
You are sweet
Always sweet
You are unique…
With your own way…
You are always special…
You are attractive no matter how you look like’

But

You are a real temptation for your fellow brothers….
You will be
You will always be ….
Like it or dislike it
Even if you never intend to
Even if you never plan to
They will fall on your laps…

My dear sisters….
I know some of you are very strict [in real]
I know you are trying always to be a real muslimah
Who love Qur’an wa sunnah
But easy to get carry away [on net]

My dear sincere sisters….
Please think over this

Would you mix and talk that free with all those guys in person?
Would you crack those "Islamic jokes" with those guys in person?
Remember of those *LOLs*….*awwwww*……”wwoooowww”….
Would you do really express that way if you met those guys in person?

Would you feel comfortable spending so much time with these guys in person?
Are you comfortable….?
Extremely comfortable…..?
VERY comfortable…….?

My dear sisters…..
Will a good brother waste their time just for talk?
Will a good brother share you every single thing?

Do you like if your husband shares their secret with another woman?
Do you like if your husband shares their joke with another woman?

My dear sisters
Don’t flower your mind to think you are the only woman he talks with
You probably one in hundreds….
Don’t feel as someone special
You the one who make yourself special
Don’t nurture those feelings…
They may sweet but for nothing….
They act same with hundreds of his female buddies…

Perhaps
They just try to be polite…
They just try to be nice…
They just try to be gentle….
They just try to help
They just try to care your feelings…
They just do not want to hurt you…
They just try to convey messages…

Perhaps
They wish you could understand yourself
They wish you could away without they say things…
They wish soon you would know your limit
They wish you soon gain your consciousness
They wish you know when you should stop yourself…

My Dear sisters…
They may say they NEVER talk with woman [AT ALL]…
You surprise
You do feel so special
You feel be the Only ONE
You feel so lucky on earth…

Please …….Be smart!!!

Is he from Mars?
Is he living outer space… is he an alien… ?
Is living in the middle of no where…?
Didn’t he ever go outside…?

Ok perhaps He does Never…..

But

Perhaps He is not sociable person
Perhaps He is an awkward person
Perhaps He has problem in interpersonal skill…
Perhaps He indifferent with his fellow sisters…
Perhaps He not a sensitive person
Perhaps He perhaps type of man who will run away even if saw his fellow sister being abuse…
Perhaps He perhaps type of man who will avoid passing his fellow sisters who need help…

Or

He is a big big liar……!!!

Be rational

Don’t make your feelings overwhelm you
Don’t make your feelings dominate your rationality,…

Oh My dear sisters..
I don’t mean to destroy you romantic dream about him…
I don’t mean to tarnish your sweet perception about him…..
I might be wrong…
Perhaps he is indeed not one what I have been listed above,…
But you have to know
The probability could be 1 in billions

My dear sweet sisters,…
Please open your heart
Please open your eyes…
Those rarest pearls …really rare breed….
They will not appear in every places…

If they have good intention over you
If they are really a real mu’min
They will know the rules…
They will know the way…
They will be a responsible person
They will not abuse their faith by justification their action
They will not play with a sacred sunnah
Just to take chance to talk with you in person…

My dear sisters…
A real pearl doesn’t need light to make it shining
A sun doesn’t need heater to make it warm
Oceans do not need salt to make it salty…
They are shining themselves…
The light… the salt … already be part of them…
They will keep shining even if buried in the deepest oncean
They are precious without advertisement,…
That also….. a real mu’min…
A wa’ra…tawadhu… mu’min
Will not use their quality just for the sake to make you fall on his laps…
They perhaps did same way to crush other heart…

My Dear sisters…
There are many who love to talk
But they do not really understand what they talk
There are many who will offer you proposal
But they actually do not understand what it is
They do not have idea how sacred it is
Go challenge them with real actions
Go challenge them to be real gentlemen
You will know for real…

Do they say they never have girl friends…
It doesn’t mean they know the religion
That could be they do not have chance due the culture restriction….

My Dear sisters….
You may say you are confidence
You may say you know the limit
You may say you will always try to be stern
You may say you are a strong person
You may say you will lead the flow

But my dear…
For how long?

My Dear sisters
It’s not only about you
But you deal with other heart
With other mind
Their heart, their mind …. out of your control
You perhaps could confidence about your strength
But you never able to control their strength
You never able to set what they should feel about you
You cant stop them to in love with you…
You cant tell them please do not think about you…
You cant ask them please stop adore you…

My dear sisters…
You never know what inside their brain…
If only they could accept your smile just same as those bold yellow icon…

My Dear sisters….
Please help those fellow brothers….
You not only responsible to care your own soul
But also …please do not put yourself as a temptation
You should not make yourself become a disease in one’s heart
You couldn’t say you never intend to…
You couldn’t say that not your fault…

Please be honest…

My Dear sisters….
The number of man who get crush on you ..
It not always reflects how good you are…
That not something nice to boast proudly…
It perhaps shows…. something wrong in you…
That could be a sign of your near failure
That could be a real destruction…

My Dear sisters…
You heart by nature so soft..

My Dear sisters….
See….those massive hard stones….
If it was fallen by just “a drop water” continuously
It would leave “a big hole”
Lets alone your tender heart…it would be “a huge” hole….

You never know when your iman down…
You never know when you are weak
But syaitan will be there patiently waiting your failure…

A small sin will create a black spot in your white heart
Finally it will turn become black
It will make your heart death
You will never able to find the way back….

Prevention always better than curing…
Better to away from trap in complication…

You may say that you only talk with good ones…
Remember good brother will be temptation for good sister
You will be temptation for good brother…

My dear sisters….
At times you start any relationship
Please take a thought
Where things would lead you
A real Moslem will never do something without a clear intention…
Allah will count your intention….
A real Moslem should know what will be the destination
Will you be his chat email friend forever….?
Share things forever?
Tell every single thing forever?
He knows what you do from 4 am to 4 pm…?
He knows what you do from Sunday to Sunday… ?

My dear sisters
The more you involve
The more your close
The more you will not able to leave
The more you will not able to stop

You heart so soft..
You are so nice
You will think thousand things
You afraid to offend him
You afraid make him cry
You afraid destroy his life
You afraid he commits suicide
You afraid he will go astray
You think he will not able live without you…

The syaithan will be happy…
They will clap their hands
If their legs could clap… They would clap too
New victims come to the circle…

You flower your minds
With all those sentimental feelings…
You will suffer and suffer not able run from the circle…
Dear Trust me…. They will not do that
If they do….. that irrefutable prove…. how stupid he is…
Do you want to end up you life with a stupid one?

My Dear sisters…
The constant interaction…
Will lead you in confusion
not able to compare between pity…sympathy… and love…

My Dear young sisters
Sometimes you just try to be polite…
You try to care a good manner…
But response not always what you hope…
You are in global villages
You should learn the global languages…
You should understand the global gesture…
You should able to deal with so many heads

If you have tried your best
If you have done your duty
You should find the way for safe your faith
You do not have any responsibility anymore
You have done what you should do
You are not cruel…
The otherwise you save his soul sooner

My Dear sisters….
Remember Allah watch over you…
Allah know even the deepest of you heart
You know the best who are you
You know the best what your doing
You know the best your capacity

You do really discuss your deen?
You do sincerely to invite people to your deen ?

But

Why you busy keep on till the late of night
Where is time for talk with your Lord
How you lost your precious private time with Lord
If you sleep 3 am 2 am… 4 am… where you would sleep
How you lost the precious the last 1/3rd night
When Allah comes closer to you
When you build inside strong spiritually

My Dear sisters…
Do you know What Google, AltaVista, yahoo, for?
Do you know thousands Islamic website available?
Do you know thousands Islamic Scholar available?
Please, you do use them maximally …
Before jump talking to any man, even if in the pretext of learning…
You do have a bunch of females’ buddies…
Please, go to them to share and study…
You do not worry if you act like a stupid…
You may express yourself freely…
You can be a sweet as you like

My Dear sisters…
May Allah make you be great wife like Khadijah bin khwalid ra
May Allah help you to be a great mother like Fatimah binti Muhammad…
May Allah make you be great scholar like Aisyah binti Abu Bakar ra
May Allah make you practice a great patience like Ashiah ra
May Allah help you to observe ghirah
and take care your husband heart like Asma binti abu Bakar
May Allah help you to as smart as Queen Balqis
as wise as Ummu Sulaim …
InshaAllah you are as beautiful as Attikah who companied all her husband as a syuhada…

Wallahualam bishshowab…..

Oh my Dear Lord…
You know very best what lies inside my heart,
You know best how sinner this soul…
You know best what hidden ….what conceal,

My Dear Lord
Please save me first from all the hypocrisy

My Dear Lord
Give me the tawfiq to follow what I have said

My Dear Lord,…
Give me from the blaze of your hell flame…

Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaika
Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaika
Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaika

Alhamdulillahirrobbil alamin
Alhamdulillahirrobbil alamin
Alhamdulillahirrobbil alamin

Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika
Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika
Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika

Rytha
Bandung, 12 May 2005