Whenever hear a news about someone lost her children, it like a reminder that nothing eternal. Losing a child is unbearable painful, especially for a mother. It’s like losing more than half of her soul and life. The memories will keep echoing every time, every moment in her life. No wonder Allah will bless them with Jannah for them who ikhlas and patience.
It’s very easy to yell at our kids, being a dictator, a superior. Act as a boss that should be listened and followed. And think parents always right no matter what they do.
Sometimes for no reason, we are so easy to get furious with them. They like a dustbin of our frustration and disappointment, especially when we are in stress and in bad mood. Feeling so disturb by their present, send them out from our room because we need rest and want to be alone.
With pretext to discipline them, we pinch and hit them, but actually that cover up our cowardliness for not able to handle our anger, and less tolerant to the younger who actually deserve our continuous advice and patience. The one that should have our tolerant because they are just a small… in fact many adult who act like kids and even worse. Do we hit them also?
Love will never come by a force or order, because love is a unique bond of heart that grows through the process. It just like children love their mother because they feel a sincere affections, caring, protection, comforts, warm, tenderness, etc from a mother through intense interactions start from wombs, breastfeeding and upbringing.
Lets we love and hug our kids… Spend more time with them…. Prepare more stock of patience and tolerance…. Control our tone if they not listen what we are saying or not do what we want to do what we order…..
Once we scream at them, we kill so many cells that growing in their brain… For sure, they will learn to yell to other in the same way.
Never stop to say how much we love them, how treasure they are…. Never shy to say sorry whenever we out of control… and never shy to admit our mistake when we do wrong.. not try to give any justification.. because that how they will grow…try to find a justification for their mistakes…
Finally ….. in every peak moment of anger, in a very moment we lost our patience…..whenever they are nagging, fussy, spoil, ..... Just keep in our mind…. Be nice……we will never know until how long Allah trusts the children under our care. We never know maybe later when we grow older we act worse than that, and they will take care of us.
A very self reminder
Rytha Nur’aini
September 2014
