~A friend (Part 4)~

We have to ready losing a friend…at anytime.

Some of friends will forget you at time they have find the comfort life, they as if do not think how lonely your life without them.

Some friends will behave like want to move away from your life even if you try your best run to keep close with them, until you feel exhausted, then decide you are really unwanted; have to leave them in peace…

Some friends keep be with you because she feel some advantages from you … they are there when they need you….

Friends that you think so close to you, not always the one who will keep laughing with you in the next some years…

We can’t complain why such a friend can do that, because your live have to go on…..

The best way to overcome those feeling is to choose passing your life in best way too….

Be grateful to Allah subhana wata’ala for every friend that come across in your life…Allah gives you chance to learn a lot from them, about life, about many different human characters. You can understand more what the meaning of true and sincere friendship is.

Rasulullah salalhu alaihi wassalam said “a believer is the mirror of his brother” [1] That mean if we sees any faults in the other believer, that will draws our attention , to helps our friend to give it up and helps them wipe away any evil that they may have.

There is no more sad experience compare to losing a friendship because you trying to be the mirror, to advice them in da’wah ilallah., when you wish something good for them like the good thing that happened in your life, when you think you should share the best part that you found in your life.

A good change in your life doesn’t always make you get more friendships.…. Not all of your friend will be happy with it… not all of them appreciate it like the way you do…

Remember Rasulullsah salalhu alahi wassalam and his companions radiyallahu anhum had to lose not only their friends but also their dear families when they embraced Islam. They are the best people, but they also experienced the losing of their dear ones. They never regret, for the truth that they found, they stick to it to the last blood….

We will lose our dear friends when we follow their trait too. There are so many people who will against us when we are trying to stick to the true teaching of Islam and persistent to apply His sunnah, they are including your dear friends….

I nearly to lose some friends because of that…or maybe I have lost their friendship…. Wallahualam.

It’s indeed unbearable pain….. Feeling like stranger, so lonely, one by one your friends leaving you. They just can’t fit with you anymore. You like an alien from the outer space… Your sincere advice will be sounded like criticize their ways ……

However why so sad…. I am not losing my faith….Alhamdulillah… a true friend still exist…… Friends who make you glow and say that they love you so much… the love purely for the sake of Allah…

A true friend,….maybe some of them have to depart from your life because they sometimes just don’t have choice…. But each time she has contact with the “world” she keep asking you….still remember you….Even if she never in touch with you…. She always remembers you in every prayer….. Always keep all the memory intact in her mind and wishing one day Allah will gather you again in jannah….. "Allah subhana wata’ala said: `Those who love one another for My glory will have minbars of light, and the Prophets and martyrs will wish that they had the same." [2]

There is still friends who patiently to guide you to make you discover the true teaching of islam….

Alhamdulillah I found some friends who keep stick to me patiently accompany me to find the light, the true teaching of Islam… that the most precious treasure, indeed a great blessing from Allah…..

InshaAllah have trust in Allah., after so long journey in searching of true friendship, Allah will finally bless us some of true friendship, at least we will have better understanding what is a true friendship.

That’s journey maybe long… the journey might be full of bitterness and pain. It somehow depend on how you learn yourself and how your improve yourself. A true mo’min will not keep her falling to the same hole and keep doing the same mistake, we should always learn from the mistakes….

Wallahualam bishshowab.

Batam 17 March 2007
Rytha

[1]Abu Dawood, Hasan Hadith
[2] Reported by Tirmidhi, 4/24, Bab ma ja'a fi al-hubb fi-Allah; he said, it is a sahih hasan hadith.

~A friend (Part 3)~

Sometimes, a concept of friendship in our childhood times seems simpler; mostly end with happy ending. Our friends surely will love us if we keep sharing them sweetness of candies, they will never abuse us if we show them the way how to do something correctly.

When we grow up…. Even if we knee down and saying wallahi I am doing all of these sincerely for your goodness…. I want you also feel the same sweetness of faith and the beautiful of Islam like I do… I care so much for your goodness……Not all our friends will take it in the same way….Simply because not all of them are happy about that ….

However….We never able to go back to our childhood time, we can’t expect people consider us like an innocent children.

All we can do just learn to be stronger, patience… grow up and more mature.

This is another sad chapter that I got from a friend….

Long time ago a friend writes this to me……

Rytha

I never wanted to be on your GROUP of brothers and sisters... and despite asking you so many times not to include me in your silly low level of sick TABLEEGHI mindset why the hell are u sticking to me.... can you just forgive my life and stop trying to enter it. I am telling you to stay away as you are constantly disturbing my peace.

Your group of people can enjoy your greetings and best wishes always .. just keep away from me. If you dont understand and kept bugging me then i will definitely come down to your level and make you away by something you wont ever forget

Allah will guide you if you open your eyes and mind. Some people have their eyes and hearts locked up..... You have been told hundreds of times to respect others privacy and life and dont enter without being asked.... Where is your shame then? WHY THE HELL ARE U STICKING AND FOLLOWING ME AND TRYING TO FIND WAYS AND REASONS TO CONTACT BY ONE WAY OR OTHER WHEN YOU KNOW THAT I JUST DONT WANT TO ASSOCIATE WITH YOU

THERE IS A THIN BORDER BETWEEN SHAMLESSNESS AND THE STUBBORNNESS.... MANY STUBBORN PEOPLE KEEP BUGGING AND IGNORE WHEN THEY ACTUALLY CROSS THE LIMITS OF RESPECT...... I have been CONSTANTLY hinting you to keep distance but you goof dont know where to stop

are u doing it for YOUR ISLAM?? it must be something that you can call ISLAM not others.... you are trying to gain things in the name of ISLAM in a hope to keep others with you because you cant get them otherwise but you will be answering ALLAH for this dJust keep away from me... do you understand ?? otherwise i know how to take away your peace of mind also.....
I know a bitch like you wont understand easily but i know how to FIX you and your shamelessness

So if you cant control your feelings next time.... then spend it somewhere else but stay away from me....... i dont need to be associated with an internet bitch who has many MALES around her to satisfy her and who wears HIJABS and says ISLAM ISLAM...... and .......

END ….

Only Allah who knows best what I felt after read such rude email……This poem maybe can describe what I feel…

Ya Allah
Why there is a person who can be trying to be that cruel…
Is that meant…. Am I really that cruel?

Which sins that made me has to pay for this….
Is this a calamity because of my sins…?
Perhaps my istighfar not enough to forgive me
Or is this a test for my patience and sincerity…

You the only one who know the journey of this…
You are the witness of the truth of it…..

Did I care him with the wrong way?
I am not complaining to You….
Caring of him taught me the meaning of real patience and sincerity…
Till I forget what the meaning of hate and pain…

If I am oppressed you must answer my pray…
Please be with him always….
Please help him always….
Please take care him always….
Please forgive him always….
Please make him like the one that You love always

I believe he is a better person than what he showed…
I believe he has heart….
I believe he has a lot of goodness…
He just tried hurt himself…..
Please forgive him…..

My dear lord I leave him with you
Make him meets things that he search in his life…….
Never leave him alone….even if how naughty he is
He needs You more than before…

Ameen ya robbal alamin….


" so lost no heart, nor fall into despair. For ye must gain mastery if ye are true in faith" [HQ 3:139]

Lahaula walla quwata illa billah…..

I kept that letter for sometimes, I delete it from my inbox when I didn’t feel the same sad and pain anymore read it again… It’s like kind of therapy for me, a therapy to comprehend what actually I feel, until I can let my heart free and relief.

It’s also an evaluation for a mistake that I did. In this case I also made a mistake. It’s a mistake to involve too close with non mahram man even if our intention is pure.

I learn one precious lesson, even if how sincere we are…. we woman tend to be so personal when dealing with brother. Woman tend to act like a hero who wants to save all live…. She is so much sensitive, her soft and tender heart cant let other alone if she think her friends need guide, always think to be a savior for that person, even if time by time she make herself drawn.

I conclude it’s better in the first place a brother help another brother and a sister try to limit herself to communicate with sister….inshaAllah it will be safer...wallahualam…

In adult world, not all of our friends like if us, we try to be balance, always tell nice things, keep send Islamic messages, etc. It like a torture for their morality sometimes… And for sure you are indeed a bored creature for them… astaghifirullah…

That day I learnt if two completely different friends will be hardly to get along well. It like you both living in the different planet… talk different language, have opposite frame of thought…….

Someone who attach her heart to attend majelis ilmy [assembly to learn Islamic knowledge] impossible to be fit with a friend who cant sit even for few minutes in that gathering. That kind of friend maybe feels better if she sit in café, watch movie in cinema, shopping, saloon etc…

If you love listen and recite Quranic verse….You cant stand well be among of friends who crazy about music…. You heart become dull… Your friend also feel same, she feel you how so old fashion, what a pathetic creature who do not know new hits and famous singer you are….You like a person who have been living in the cave for whole of your life….

A friend who usual being among mixed groups of opposite gender will always enjoy be in party and hanging with her males friends. You can’t stand if should company her/him. If she go with you in a sparete gathering… it will be so strange…..How many of people on this earth prepare for attend separate gathering!

You will be really exactly like a ghuroba [stranger], You will completely just different.. like earth and heaven.. day and night… just exactly like in opposite personality and character….

If keep going together…one will influence other or one will be influenced by other. That’s why we should very careful to choose our friend. In an authentic Hadith, Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wassalam said: “A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend.” [Abu Dawood and at-Tirmithi] “The example of a bad companion is the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows.. he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him.” ( Al-Bukhari and Muslim) .

If we befriend with a virtue person, inshaAllah at least we have obey the sunnah of Rasullullah sallahu alaihi wassalam to choose a good companions. We inshaAllah will follow her habit and her goodness too. But if we follow a bad friend, people mostly think we just the same like our friends…

A real friendship is where you can advice each other in good things and reject in evils….

The last that I learnt, being hurt and sad if can’t help to light your dear friend to the truth at first it’s really human being, it test our sincerity when we guidance our friend to the light of islam… but it shouldn’t ever discourage us to keep telling the truth. Never give up inhsaAllah.

Alhamdulillah it encourage me to learn more how the methodology of Rasulullah salalhu alahi wassalam deal with people….

When I feel so many friends love us.. When I hear they praise and say I am a pleasant friend…I always remember this short term of my life… Somehow it help me a lot to go down to the earth at anytime some friends make me fly with such of praise. Because I remember there is friend who thinks I am not that good. It make me more realize …. Actually Allah the one who install love and appreciation in other’s heart.. it’s for sure Allah who cover my sins and my weakness that make other can see me in beautiful shape and appreciate what I do…. Therefore there is nothing that we can proud about….

Wallahualam bishshowab…

To be continue inshaAllah

~A friend (Part 2)~

When we was kids we think friendship only about sharing our toys, go here and there in group… fighting because of silly reasons etc…But no matter how bad you fight each other you still can get along again after some days as if nothing happened before with no any hatred.

When I grow up I understand there are so many complex matters that can be happened in friendship. Sometimes things just cant be the same anymore…

Once I thought I had found a very wonderful friendship….

It like you has found a friend that so close to your heart…. The one that you laugh a lot with, share a lot of things, someone you pour your heart, you do love her whole heartily …Love her for the sake of Allah.

Anytime you saw her from far distance that already lift you so much, so much excited to meet your dear friend…. Your heart fill of happiness and love, smiles automatically growing on your face even before she notice your present…just because you already feel the joy of going talk to her…you rush to coming toward her impatiently to share more more stories…If possible running to embrace her… You have kept so much in your mind to share her.

That all what I felt about this wonderful friend…..

But then suddenly you get stunned ….something wrong….but you don’t know why… you just feel something changed… she keep something…until one day she sent you an email…. You so excited to read it…. But Her email sound like a thunder that cause a hard storm into your heart……The sky suddenly so dark, as dark as what you feel after finish read the last sentence….

She seem just awake you from long sleep, she make you afraid about the bad side of yourself. You lost your confidence as if you even don’t know who you are. You think she cant make wrong judgment as she has known you for long time, all what she wrote must be the truth...

She said she was hurt, the worse I the one who hurt her…. :(

That what happened. It was so much sad me for some days, I need few days to evaluate myself....

I feel like the worse friend on earth….How could I smiled, too overwhelmed by loves but so blind to realize if I already hurt a friend that so close to me….

I asked for forgiveness…..

I couldn’t bear to be close with her without feeling sad, hardly to forgive myself, always haunt with my own thought I had hurt her.

That day I learnt…

We often take granted the one who close with us will fully understand us… This make us tend become careless to give best attitude to our close ones… We sometimes often become so blind about what your close people feel.. be insensitive to what happening with them…….

Another great lesson I learnt….

It’s indeed unbearable painfully when people misunderstanding you…. We have to open ourselves to help other understand us to prevent them misunderstanding us….

Remember Rasulullah salallahu alahi wassalam, Narrated from Anas Radiyallhu anhu said, "Help your brother, whether he is an oppressor or he is an oppressed one. People asked, "O Allah's Apostle! It is all right to help him if he is oppressed, but how should we help him if he is an oppressor?" The Prophet said, "By preventing him from oppressing others." [HR Bukhari Volume 3, Book 43, Number 624]

Don’t open the opportunity for our close friend to hurt us…. We have to help her to understand if we don’t like her way… if we don’t like her attitude… if we find something wrong…. Don’t keep it… don’t burry it inside your heart but revenge… We should concern to not make her be oppressor who hurt you all time… However it for our goodness too… It better to communicate from heart to heart honestly rather than just keep it but being exploded at the end…. It could be so much shock… could destroy anything…

There are things that been broken …will be very difficult to mend

Deep down inside I promise to keep learning how to understanding other better…especially my dear close ones….It so hurtful being misunderstood…I don’t want they feel that hurt if I misunderstand them…

It’s so much hurtful… It will be much more hurtful when you fail to understanding someone that so much close to you …..

At least we should try our best…

Lahaula walla quwata illa billah…

Alhamdulillah we are still friends…. But it feel just not same anymore… ….

To be continue InshaAllah

~A friend (Part 1)~

They are many friends that we made in our life… just few who remain forever..

They have to move on with their life, times make they have to change doesn’t matter your life are just seem the same.

I still remember some friends in my childhood time when I was about 3 to 7 years old that was the most beautiful moments because I felt I had many friends. The closest ones are one girl and two 2 boys who living close to my home.….One of the boy is from non Moslem family.

We separated when our daddy had to move to different city…

I remember I tried to trace where they are, I often asked my parents where they are. My parents sometimes meet their parents in some company's events, I wish if by chance we were passing their places we could come by…

I was very happy that girl moved close to my elementary school.. Each time I passing her house I watching her house carefully wishing if I could see her somewhere smiling to me , asked me to stop and invited me to her house to “play” and share many stories like old time…… I wish my mom would have any kind of mother clubs visiting there where they allowed to bring kids… so I could meet my friends….But usually parents events didn’t include children :(

I wrote her letters through her younger brother who was studying in the same school…I was so much happy she replied me [maybe not less than got the love letter :)]. I felt like It was a very briliant idea to start writing her letter and she answered it.

We exchanged letter for sometimes, She is older than me…..I admire all things about her, I even amaze with the way she made the envelope, it looked so cute, I tried to make my own too when replied her letter [but it not as nice as her ]. I read her letters so many times…. , I admire her pretty hand writings…. She sometimes wrote some words in English!, it sound very cool ….. I asked her… Did she need open dictionary if she want to write sentence in English? :) She seems so perfect to me as she always good in the study….

After sometimes the correspondence just stopped :(….Not me who stopped it…. I remember she didn’t reply my letter when I started comment her about her boyfriend when she said she has one … What I was a very tinny kid what I know about having boyfriend ! I also do not have idea where that thought comes from to advice her to not have boyfriend….

I learnt.... an adult doesnt like a kid lecture them sometimes.... Be kid should be polite if you want to say your opinions.....

I met one of those boys when I was in high school …His school just next to mine…Once I followed my parents visit his house…… He seems doesn’t recognize me... I remember him because one scratch on my leg that I got when ride his bikes…..

I wondered why he didnt choose to study in the same high school. His uncle said.... even if both that school next each other... and my school is best one.. he doesnt like to be there... He said that school seem bored.. so many serious people..and too many hijabi girl there .. :(

That day... I learnt....... I think we grew in different direction ...... wallahualam...

I met the last boy when went to university…. It was my mom who told me if one of my old friends also joined the same university….Surprised he is smart too :)...

I asked my classmate regarding him to confirm that news…. But my friend told me… : “Rytha, but he is non Moslem”
“ So what ? I just asking about him…. I am not going to marry him”….

If woman ask about man that not all want to marry him… I just getting excited…I found an old friend.

My mom said that his mom told him too if I also study in the same university like him……. But he said his mom : “ Who is Rytha? “

He doesn’t remember me at all…

His mom screams at him, she couldn’t believe her son forget me…She told him all our childhood time, trying to recall him all our childhood memory… She lecture him how we grow up together…, always go anywhere together... She said is that little girl who help you escape for home when I was locking you in room because I was giving you punishment for be so much naughty…. etc etc…

Still he doesn’t remember at all…

But I still remember clearly… how silly kids all of us…. I tried to follow those boys’ activities…..climbing the tree, crossing the big ditch …swim in the dirty pool….jumping, running, salto in the yard... We had imagination hero….. riding bike around the complex…. Fighting … Share stupid ghost story….. etc....

Astaghfirullah… silly… but we were kids…..

I totally lost contact with all of them now…

I learn…
They are friends when I was very young, but it still clearly upset to know they do not remember you, feel like they do not keep your childhood memory as precious as you think about them.... …

It somehow bitter to feel things have to change and you find you not in the same way with them....

We were kids…. All what happened in kids’ time were just innocent…. So… it doesn’t matter if they do not remember their childhood friends…. It consider innocent too… wallahualam…..

However their mother at least still remember who are you

To be continue…inshaAllah.

~K H A D I J A H~

Ummul Mu’minin Khadijah…

The Mother of the Believers
You are the best woman in the earth [1]
You married the noblest man in the world and jannah
You born the leader of women of Paradise Fathimah [2]
You are grandmother of outstanding man in Jannah Hasan and husayn

Allah the Most High and Jibril conveyed His blessing upon you
Give you a glad tiding as the owner a mansion in paradise
Made of brilliant pearls
Which there will be no clamor or toil [3]

You are At thahirah [the pure] with nobility chastity
A determined and intelligent woman
Born from the respectable family
Belong to the noblest one
A wealthy and generous woman

The grieve because left by your dear husband
The grieve of the failed of your second married [4]
But your patience fruit the happiness
You were prepared for a purest man on earth…

You hear about al-Ameen (the trustworthy one)
He is al-Saadiq (the honest one)
You hear his noble character…
Impressed with the personality
His honest and trustworthy
You do willing to be his soul partner…

You nervous wondering
If that young man will see you
You felt so old….

Oh khadijah…
Al Ameen was so poor
You are so respectable woman…
You are intelligent beautiful
You are wealthy
Many respectable men were keen to marry you.
You seem unreachable…

Allah knows the intention of your heart
He destined you what you deserve
Married you with him
The best man who respect your nobility and chastity….

On that blessed day
You show your generosity …
You invited all the poor…
You honor an old woman Halimah as-Sa'diyah
Back to her village with 40 of sheep
As the gift for woman who have care your beloved husband

A wonderfully blessed marriage
Lived together in a profound harmony
The ideal of intimacy, friendship,
mutual respect, support and consolation
The faithful and loyalty

You give everything you have
Your husband love one of your slave – Zaid bin Haritsah
You give him as gift
He love that slave like his own son….

He appreciate everything that you give
Your love and kindness always return back…
With more more love and honor

Your love and mercy growing
Increasing in quality and depth as the years passed by

You add his happiness with the most beautiful gift
al-Qasim, Abdullah, Zainab, Ruqqayah, Ummi Kalsum and Fatimah.

When ..You find your dear husband like to khalwat
You never prevent him to away from you..
You keep follow him with your love and heart
You ask people to care him around
Prepare him the food

That day when he came home shivering with fear
You covered and calmed him with the tenderness of love..
You behave wisely
Show your maturity…
You care and warn your dear first
Never annoy him with questions first
Until he told you himself…

You so trust and confident of him..
You cheer him that Allah will never disgrace him

You believe in him
You said
He is a noble man who always uphold the tie of kinship
Speak always truthfully,
Help always the poor and destitute.
Serve always the guests generously
And assist always those who stricken by calamity [5]
Your wise tender words greatly comfort him

Never ever doubt him,
Always sure he is the best..
Nor show the slightest hesitation towards him
Always be his greatest source of comfort,
The first one provide security for him

You search help to clear what happened with you husband
Affirm your feelings of his high dignities
A messenger of Allah is your husband….

You be the first to believe in Allah and His Messenger
You the first to believe in what his Lord sent him
You strengthened him in all his affairs.

You spent all what you have for his da’wah….
Until that day he saw you crying
But not due the poverty
The sadness no has anything left anymore to spend in His way…

Remember that day when all Quraish boycott the prophet
You company him to your end
You were the richest who owed several kinds of trade.
That time you were shivering in hungry
Your beauty fades due of poverty
You feel the hard..
You felt sick lying on your bed….
You keep put smiles on your face
to welcoming your husband
You never complain
nor show your sorrow..…
To strengthen his ways always

Khadijah
He never forget all what you did….

Your dear husband loves never fade
Death couldn’t take his love away….
You always have a special place in his heart
Your gesture and voice… recorded strongly in his mind

He always constantly mentions your name…
Didn't get tired of praising you
Mentioned you virtues and merits extensively on many occasions
It seem he never depart his house before praised you

Whenever he sacrificed a sheep
He would send it to those who had been your intimate friends.
He love you dearly
as if there had never been any other woman in the world like you [6]

Anything hurt you.. That would hurt him too..
He couldn’t bear to hear bad thing in your regard
Even that came from his beloved wife Aishah…

He said….
You are a wife who believed in him when other rejected him
You accepted Islam when people rejected
You helped and comforted him
When there was no one else to lend him a helping hand
You affirmed his truthfulness when everyone else accused he lying
You supported him with you money when everyone else deprived him.
Allah provided him with children through you
When no other woman has given me children. [7]

How could someone forget you
You are a loveable woman
You are an adorable woman…
And perfect affectionate mother..
A virtuous wife
You always beside your husband to listen his sorrow
You are a wise behalf
You are the best friend and counselor…

Allah loves you more
Your soul is His belong…
to Him you return
Your dear husband buried your body with his own hand
That day…that year be a great grieve time in his live….

And he call your for the palace that He promises
Give you a glad tiding as the owner a mansion in paradise
Made of brilliant pearls
Which there will be no clamor or toil

~~~***~~~~

May Allah help all us to be like Khadijah…
A blessed woman whom Allah and her husband please with her
May Allah bless all muslimah with a husband who love and respect his wife like Rasulullah salallahu alahi wassalam love and respect Khadijah…

InshaAllah
Ameen


Rytha
Batam 19 February 2007

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[1] Ali ibn Abi Talib (ra) narrated that the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said, "The best of the world's women is Mary (in her lifetime) and the best of the world's women is Khadijah (in her lifetime). [Bukhari] Abu Musa Al ashari also narrated that the Prophet (pbuh) said, "Many among men attained perfection, but among women none attained perfection except mary the daughter of Imran, and Asiya the wife of Pharoah, and the superiority of Aisha to other women is like the superiority of Tharid (an Arabic dish) to other meals"

[2] (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, al-Manaaqib, 3353) “The best f the women of Paradise are: Khadeejah, Faatimah, Maryam [Mary] and ‘Aasiyah.” (Ahmad and An-Nasaa’ee)

[3] Reported by Abu Hurayrah & collected by al-Bukhaaree (vol.5 pp.104-5 no.168) & Muslim (vol.4 p.1297 no.5967))

[4] Khadijah first husband is Abu Halah bin Zurarah at-Tamimi, he die, they had 2 children Halah dan Hindun. Then she married Atiq bin 'A'id bin Abdullah al-Makhzumi after some times they divorced.

[5] (Reported by 'Aa'ishah & collected by Muslim (eng. Trans vol.1 pp.96-8 no.301).

[6] HR Bukhaaree (eng. Trans. Vol.5 p.104 no.166) & Muslim (eng. Trans. Vol.4 p.1297 no.5972)[7] (HR. Ahmad, Al-Isti’ab karya Ibnu Abdil Ba’ar)

~Be lenient toward glass vessels…~

Advice for husbands… and single brothers who going to marry ….

Be lenient toward the glass vessels…
Treat her softly with tenderness..
Else she easy to get scratch,
Then develop to be a crack…
A small shock it will be broken to pieces…
She was created from your ribs…
Her bend need your soft hands to make her straight without break….

Treat her kindly……
Speak to her nicely…
She tend to be very sensitive
Want to be loved completely …
Want you understand her soul clearly

She wants to be like the hoor of jannah
Her life so easy to turn dark when you upset..
She can’t close her eyes before see you please…
When you have a headache,
Impossible for her to sleep
Until after you fell asleep
Willing to sacrifice everything for you comfort

Her happiness vanishes when you disappear….
She cries out in desperation when you silent.
Shivers in fear that she might trouble you
Hoping your smiles like waiting for the sun after the could…
For love means like to share…
The trust to talk and solve thing together…

Sometimes
She tend to be possessive
She loves you all out in totality…
She feels gives too much but no return
Feeling loving you sometimes like keep water in her hands…
As far as she opens her hands it will remain there
But when she close her hand to posses it..
It will split out just with the first crack..

Please treasure what she given
Never lost its preciousness…

Sometimes she feels like in the barren land…
Love with no return….
In the confusion with aching heart
Feeling like building a castle from fragile sandS…
She has much to say but there is not way…
Unable to understand you

She cries for the soul to feel as she feels,
To love her as she loves you,

It is destiny who brings your together eternally.
She is the gift from Allah in your life
As a Marriage is a compromise
You choose her among other woman
Even the first that your might the best one you see
You have to learn to live a happy life with it
Try your best for its success

Look through her eyes…
For you see her love so deep
Her feeling like the ocean of flow
Keep growing with no end…

She wishes you be a romantic bird
Sings her lovely songs

She needs your true sympathy when she in trouble.
She needs to feel being care…
She needs your love…
There no source that she expects but from her dear husband…

Talk to her
Even that small things..
Makes her feeling trusted and needed…
Show interest to whatever she does..
Give attention to what she say….
Don’t let her cries out in desperation hoping you will hear

She needs you express your love…
She is your helpmates,
The mother of your children..
The one who comfort your home..
The companion who fulfills your love desires…
Your other half
The queen of your heart….

Let her see your love,
Show your great need of her.

It difficult to express…
As man hard to be gentle
But it what she is seeking …
Put aside your ego and pride...
Don’t make her lose in hope…
Her happiness will make her doing her duties in content…

Love is the most beautiful thing to happen
Never bored to say
You love her everyday …
Don’t let the time fade it…
Don’t wait to realize its worth when it’s gone

Drop her a romantic messages
Even in your busy times..
Make her glow you remember her
Make her feel she the first and important…

Build a house full light and happiness…
With love and harmony….

No matter what happen,
Keep her as your dear …
A half that always bring the light
The blossom of your soul
Give you the wings that help you to fly

She always wants to be shinning star
Keep her glistening so bright..


Rytha
Batam 6 March 2007

"Allah says: “He created for you mates from among yourselves so that you can seek comfort in them and He has placed between you affection and mercy.” [Sûrah al-Rûm: 21]

~Allah please bring back the lights~

Allah ..
Please bring back the light on my face
The light has dimmed by the ugliness of my sins…

Allah ..
Please bring back the light in my heart,
This heart dark covered by the spot of sins…

Allah ..
Please bring back the light on my sight
This eyes has been blinded saw forbidden things

Allah ..
Please bring back the light on my hearing
These ears had listened so many forbidden things…

Allah ..
Please bring back the light on my hand
For this hand stop doing good things

Allah ..
Please light me above.. light me bellow
Please light in front me ..behind me

For all became dark due the darkness of my sins…

Allah ..
Please forgive for the sins I did…
Please forgive for the heart of disobedient

Allah…
Please light my heart…
It been torn into pieces…
For you the best healer
For remember you the mean of peace…

Allah ..
Forgive me for heart that broken
For the evil of my tongue

Allah
I did terrible things
But please don’t let the evil win over me
He is whispering I might never be the same Muslim again.

Allah ..
Please enhance the light for me…
Never ever let me despair from your Mercy…..

Rytha
Batam 19 February 2007

"Do not look at how small your sin is,
consider the greatness of whom you sinned against"

~ I hate long messages ~

I am not a writer… but sometimes love to write for myself or for my close people.

A friend used to say, it like punishment to read what I wrote…because…. sometimes it's too big, even one of them started praying that it will be a great blessing if someone invented word compressor to compress my words…..…

Therefore I think I have to stop to make only my close people got headache and I decided to let other read my writings, expand my talent to make more people get headache…:)

The truth is… muslimah should able to do anything [even the smalest things that she can do for Islam]. Writing is a tradition of our previous scholars… imam Syaukani was advised by his teacher to write even if only 2 lines everyday….He did that advice and we know who is he, he wrote many high quality big books and one of them a monumental book of Nailul Authar..

There are many great scholars like Shaikh Ibnu Taymiyyah….Ibnu Qayyim… Ibnu Katsir, Imam Bukhari… just mention some of them…..

A Ustadz told me about Shaikhul Islam Ibnu taymiyyah, He said If we compare the number of Shaikh Ibnu taymiyyah's writings with the length of his life, we just very wonder how he seems use most of his time for writing, it seems he could product one risalah [book] everyday… subhanallah…..

Imam Bukhari… He traveled a lot to collect hadith… Subhanallah…. He is a master in hadith, it hardly to find a mistake from him, he seems know all hadith…His friends often tested his memory and his knowledge about hadith, but he always answered them well…… .Once time his friend conveyed him a hadith and Imam Bukhari said he doesn’t know that hadith…His friends so happy finally they find a hadith that imam Bukhari doesn’t know… They met their teacher and said about this….

But His teacher just simply said…. If there is hadith that Bukhari doesn’t know.. then it is not a hadith…. Subhanallah…..

This is our great pervious generation…They always persistent in thollabul ilmy [study], memorize it, write it, apply it in their daily life and teach it to other....They always thirst of knowledge and spend their wealth for more and more knowledge.....

We owe so much from them through their great works …

The goodness of someone make him has long life…… because even if they have departed this world…. People still can get benefit from their goodness…. People still can take benefit from their works… They keep teaching other through their writings….their knowledge spread from one generation to another generation…….It’s continuous righteous deeds… that will grow and grow…be goodness of other and the goodness of the giver……

That was long long time ago…

What happening now?

We find the summaries of tafseer…
The summaries of the hadist
The summarizes of Shirah…

All being summarized…

Those summaries are made by some scholars… to help our generations who “TOO” busy to learn those big kitab [books]… At least they wish the young generations can read the “summarizes” if they cant read the original ones…

What we think …

Agh.. We hate long messages, anytime we see the emails too long to read.. We will simple skip them or sent it to the trash bins, lets alone read the books… We hate big books [even the summarizes still too big to read]…

I am just too busy… I don’t have time to read…

What the fact ....

We do have time to watch the hours of Titanic… every new coming of Bollywood or Hollywood movies…
We can complete a big novel in one sit…even we don’t feel mind lost our sleep for complete it…….
We do have a lot of time to go eat in the café.. chit chat.. gossiping.. with friends…
We do have time do “chatting”….. flirting to the opposite genders on the net…
We do have time to do hours shopping..
We do sleep too much…
We are busy in study
We are busy with our works
Etc ….

All of us always have “REASONS” to make ourselves sound “BUSY”
We do read it sometimes… We do learn “SOMESTIMES” ……”WHEN we have TIME”
We do go to religious assembly “SOMETIMES”……….”WHEN we have TIME”

But

We do manage time to go to cinema….
We do manage time to go clubbing…
We do manage time to go to gym…..
We do manage time to go to manicure and pedicure…

Astaghfirullah…

Why we do not let ourselves give time to study the deen….
Why we do not make it in schedule..
Can we write so many books like what they did ?

If we do not have time to read… let alone contribution in writing like our pious predecessors..
At least all we have to do…. Just read…

Even if we don’t have time to read, there are many lecture available in audio format..we simply can listen it while we doing our works instead of "music"

All things are easier nowadays…

Ibnu Abas used to sleep in front of the doors of other companions because he want to write their wisdoms…

At Tabari asked the letter to write the “do’a and the hadist” from a scholar that visited him while he was sick even if he was nearly to death….

My dear brothers and sisters…

If anytime you find long messages.. please do not be mad…. You may consider they are not important and bored… but they may really urgent needed by other sisters and brothers…. Think the new learners who thirst the knowledge..

You refused those messages because you do not have times to read… but other need it because they need them…

You may can just delete them if you do not like them… or you can save them and take a look it later when you have time….

Anytime you find the long messages… all you need just read… At least do think the effort of the one who compose it for you…… You do not need to compose it… you just simply need read it if you like…

Wallahualam bishshowab….

Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika…
Rytha
Bandung 16 June 2005

~They are the trust, They are the treasure ~

My dear Sister who Seeking for Jannah….. How are you doing? InshaAllah today is better than yesterday, alhamdulillah…

Subhanallah I am very proud about a sister with very high qualifications and her concern to our youth Moslems. I hope there are many muslimah who well educated, an be master in their respective fields like her..… Then we all can be one precious asset in this Ummah mashaAllah…InshaAllah….

My dear sisters ……we all love children.. As woman our heart will be flooded by the tenderness and compassion of love anytime we see their clear innocent faces.. We feel so peace see through their sparking eyes… Our heart melt with their sweet heartily smiles…all the pain just gone when see their cheer…They are such sweet tiny creature…..Who can resist to not kiss and hug them?…mashaAllah the most pure and purity creature…

Imagine such dear creature could grow up with disorder of behavior, disorder of learning… , etc… na’uzubillah…We never want to think about that… we only think about all the best for their life…We all dream the best education because we all realize education is an important foundation to revive this ummah to gain the better Islamic life system..

As woman we take the big part to responsible their well being….

In the Qur’an it was described the children are as allurements the life of this world [Qur’an Al Kahfi 18:46] , the children is one who comfort of our eyes [Qur’an Al Fur’qan 25:74]. But in the same time our children can be as a test : Allah says “And know ye that your possessions and your progeny are but a trial; and that it is Allah with Whom lies your highest reward” [Qur’an Al Anfal 8:28] Subhanallah… Indeed the children is our amanah [trust] that we have to care very much….

Few days ago my best friend came visit. me She graduated from psychology, specifically in psychology for education. She is running a school. It’s not a big school, it like a playgroup; preschool that also provide counseling for the parents. She focuses on children who need “special” care.

I told her about a query that sent by a sister in my Islamic group regarding deal with children, and then we had long conversation…. IshaAllah I am going to share you our conversation……
Subhanallah… she told me so many new things… I was surprised….I meant actually I felt so stupid when I realize how less that I know about children . Perhaps the few replies of this query in the group is a proof that I am not the only ones here :) [I didn’t mean say my dear sisters stupid like me….]

Another thing that surprised me, She told me she made a simple survey just among muslimah, friends…[most of them even da’wah activist..]… The question is so simple.. Which thing that been priority being preparing by unmarried muslimah….. It was rarely who answered: “I am preparing how to be a good mother” or “I am learning how to bring up my children”, “I am learning the physiology of children”…. Most of them focus on: What is a good husband, how to be a good wife [to please the husband], and then finally they use most of time to think what kind of man that they are going to marry… “

Subhanallah… that’s not wrong at all… But our ignorance about children when we step our marriage life will give bad effect to our children.

I just know it’s important for a baby to have the right sequences of developments. It’s not good if babies stand/walk without pass the phase of crawling on hands and knee…because skipped one phase; this will less their explorer experiences…There are many things children can explore when they are crawling phase….

Subhanallah… I never though about that.. I thought it’s just like a super baby if they can stand straight away very soon …. :).

She said some of children even have to get some therapies if they lost some of development phases, this is to ensure the particular part of their body stronger and develop properly…
Before start some kind of therapy, she asked the complete history of the children. How was the pregnancy.. When the first time the child could move his head.. When the first time he can sit.. When the first time he could crawling?..... When they first time he can stand?.. etc etc …there are some other questions that have to fill out…

At that time I was like… Ya Allah, if I was a mom, could I answer those questions? Will I know when the first time my baby could move his head,….Subhanallah… Nowadays the role of motherhood has been substituted by baby sisters due the widespread of career woman, it must be difficult to answer that questions……even they maybe don’t know what the first word their babies said ……..

She said many muslimah still have lack of knowledge when they get married…. The knowledge about children is one of them…She has to answer some Muslimah who asked her the same questions. Some of them very panic,like “Miss why my child couldn’t concentrate/focus when doing something” ? “Miss, why is it so difficult to ask my child to study?” “Miss why my child can’t be independent?” etc etc….

They do not have idea how long 2 year children can concentrate while she/he doing. Some got panic while actually it’s a normal case….[When She said this….By the way How long sis? :)... I also really didn’t have idea how long a 2 year old children is considered have a normal concentration ] . She told me how long but sorry I forget her exact answer :). She said when we grow older, we should able to concentrate longer. [ I thought I might been attacked by Attention Deficit Disorder.. because often not in the mood to do my works :) ...or perhaps some of us who cant concentrate well in our prayer have this problem .. so need some therapy ... :) ]

Some mothers worry about their children that can not be independent. But then she found out it was the parents who act too protective… even in the class Parent tends to always wait their children in school, they keep asking what their son doing….[I felt…it’s true sometimes love can make us become soo protective… it made me remember my experience with my cat [well because I still not have children :) ], I was too protective to my cat. that made he even afraid with mouse and even cant defense himself from other naughty cat…he afraid to step our from house, anytime he saw a car or motor bike passing, he run inside the house… When I lost him for 6 months, I was really upside down …..]

Each of children are unique and we can not make generalization.. Each of them needs special treatment. We have to have special strategy in dealing with them. There is kind of child that can do something better if they are given an order [like a dictator way…you have to do this …don’t to do this]..…....

There is kind of child who can work better if they are given support by praising them, there is kind of children who like if given challenges, there is kind of children who should be taught by diplomatic why…..And there is kind of child who need combination of those methods…
MashaAllah she shared so many things…

Nowadays many children have problems that need special care… According to her experiences in the field, she identifies 1 from 3 children need special care. The triggers of this problem [according to her] are the bad foods, the environments, and the main things because the parents [especially mom] who do not have enough knowledge about how to educate their children.
One of very common case nowadays is autism and hyper active. She found so many children that identified as autism, hyperactive…She have been doing therapy for these cases….

A mom should able to identify if their children have the tendency or not… [Do you know how to identify that autism sis ? I just know how the easy way to find the indication our child have autism problem… . Like their eyes didn’t see to the eyes’ of people who talking with them…when they were babies they don’t feel any distracted and don’t see us even if we make any sound with his toys …..etc..and for hyper active children we also should know the differences between an active children and the hyper active…. ] …

We actually can help those children if we aware about those problems in the early time.. Then we can give an early care and therapy… And the best therapy for the children is from people who close with them….

Anyway, we can identify this case from school… in fact not all private Islamic school really care about his matter. How to make our Islamic school care to test their students and train their teacher to aware this case…Especially if from the house we cant identify this case we want the school help us to identify if our child have problem or not. We want our children who have special case they find help and can grow and develop normally….

I think one of way to eliminate this problem as muslimah it is an obligation for us to learn at least the simple way to identify this case and know what we should do.. So for my dear fellow sisters who still single you actually have so many things that you should learn before step to marriage life :)

Marriage life is full with responsibilities [it's not only flowering and romantic scene ], if we consider marriage as ibadah, the best ibadah is the one that accompanied with knowledge,,, so prepare as much as possible the knowledge to make our ibadah maximal inshaAllah…

I encourage myself and my dear sisters lets start from now we buy books to learn about children and learn from our senior sisters who have more experience….… even if we still do not know when we are going to get marry,… or if in the future we do not have chance to get marriage.. inshaAllah the knowledge will never useless [we still can use this knowledge to help other muslim..]

This is a real reminder for me personally. I still have very low knowledge about children.. if I do not search more.. I might feel so sorry....and my innocent children will be the victim of my ignorance.. astaghfirullah..

And the second one I think for some sisters who are well trained to identify and to give the therapy for these special cases, they can start run their school [just like my friend]…to help children with these special care…

And the third one, as parents we should active to monitoring our education system. Speak out to the school committee, use parents committee to concept the best system that will be conveyed to the schools….

The school only can be developed well if they can fulfill the needed of the attendances… so If all parents know what their children need and all of them speak out.. The school will not have choice but they have to prepare what they need… else the school will be abandoned/closed… the big matter here is about how aware we are…how concern we are about this matter… If we keep being ignorance and indifferent about this matter…… then it will not go anywhere, the school will keep running with their ways.. and nobody will help our children until we realize it’s too late to help them…

May we all can work together to create better community that always framed by the spirit of true teaching of Islam… May Allah subhana wata’ala help us to make all things easier…

Bandung 19 November 2005
Rytha

Astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika
Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika

~To the one who has a broken heart~

To the one who has a broken heart……cry if you want to cry….that really human… But you shouldn’t feel the world end….Don’t let your heart in trouble with revenge… but make that as a precious experience, a time to gain your closeness to The Owner of your heart [Allah subhana wata’ala] to share Him every single of your pains… The One and the only One who will understand you in every deep, every piece of your heart… The One who will never judge you and tell how stupid, silly and idiot you are….

A great person……A strong person… always cry in front of Him…. Every drop of tear in your prays to Him will relief your heart, will heal your broken heart… will clean your soul and will liberate you life…..

Allah put you in that situation must be for reason. Allah must want make you learn to respect more about your life…. perhaps Allah wants to test your patience… Allah wants to remind you… or perhaps that calamity for pay your owe because of some particular sins you did [because sins are owe that we have to pay someday…]….

If you decide to involve in things… there are must be the consequences…. Consequences that have to be considered at very first before steps in one adventure…. At least ready to responsible to every step of your actions….. and get hurt that one of the consequences….

The pain that you feel will make you respect your life, a precious experience that caste you become a compassion person…. teach you if you cant do the same to other…because you already known how it feel… you will have a gift to help other to remind them from heart to not experience the same pain like yours….

In the same time, you should ask yourself about your sincerity…. Did you really base your action in sincerity… You should ask ...what wrong with you intentions…. If you do something for the sake of Allah why you feel hurt and pain if things not go like what you dream?

If someone hurt you… that a precious time where Allah will answer every of your pray [ Allah will answer pray of people who are oppressed]…. That also a precious time to gain big reward by forgive and pray every good thing for ones who hurt you….

When we feel other did hurt us and oppressed us, be careful with our prays because Rasulullah SAW said "Be afraid, from the curse of the oppressed as there is no screen between his invocation and Allah." [HR BUKHARI] , sometimes in anger we tend to prays bad things happened to the oppressors.

What if Allah answers that pray [ in fact perhaps the one who hurt us are our dear ones ...our close friends, parents, relatives or people that we love… ].

Each time of painful words, actions of that person haunting in your mind... each time tear drops... each time your feel the same bitterness and pains.......Never forget to ask forgiveness for the person who hurt you…force your lips to pray for his/her goodness.... to ask forgiveness for him/her...........Because each time you feel that pains...that person also get more sins of hurting you......

They would get the consequence of their bad deeds to Allah subhana wata'ala .... Forgiveness with help you to cure your heart.... May Allah will record that as the righteous deeds, insyaAllah…

Indeed it’s very difficult to forgive when we are be a victim…indeed it’s difficult to forgive when our heart hurt… difficult to be sincere when our heart sick… But it’s a journey….. the jannah not that easy to gain…. .

Finally…. As far what you did based on sincerity…. As far you have tried your best whole heartly…. If things not work… remember Allah must have other plans… better plan…. insyaAllah…. Please forgive and forget…. This will help you a lot… insyaAllah….
Wallahu alam bishshowab…..

Rytha
Bandung, Sun, 16 Oct 2005


Note : Someone made very beutiful editing of this writing. Please check here
http://yahumaira.wordpress.com/2005/12/28/to-the-one-who-has-a-broken-heart/#comment-389
Jazakillahu khair ..... I find this version in some other sites.....that made me remember if i ever wrote this :)

I post here the original with some addition and editing.....

~The day I lost him~

The day I lost him, I couldn’t sleep. It was raining. I was thinking what if he was outside feeling cold…..

Will someone could love him more than I did…Will someone could care him more than I did …. Nobody will think he is special……. What if nobody feed him. … What if nobody protect him, nobody welcomes him… … He is ugly…he was sick... He couldn’t eat anything... He likes to vomit anywhere…. He was so easy to get scare.... he was easy to get panic

I hope he know I didn’t mean to leave him with stranger….I didn’t have choice…. If I knew I would lost him….., where is he…

Did he think I leave him? Did he think I did not care him… Why he didn’t come home… was he lost? Is he alive?

If he was a man…. I would not be too worry him… he will able to take care himself… he perhaps only would go because of a better woman who will able make him happier, who will take care and love him more … But he is just a cat….a weak cat….

A weak cat whom even no able to defense himself when a bigger cat came to disturb his night sleep, A cat that will run hide and search of protection, a cat who grasp my shoulder tightly when he hear something noisy… a cat that will wait me to feed him… A cat who need being nurse when he was sick….

Nobody will understand how important you are… You are just cat… Your disappearance was perhaps nothing

Anytime when I heard cat’s crying and frightening… I always checked it…but it’s not you… Who will help you if you scared…. Who will feed you if you hungry… Do they understand if you like cheese more than fish… Do they understand if you love around people…

If I didn’t spoiled him too much…if I didn’t over protective… If I teach him to be independent to face the wild world… he must survive… It was my fault…..My love had made me blind,… Love indeed is blind… tend to lead anyone to love with the wrong way.… My love that made the beloved become weak…and depend on… astaghfirullah…. Being too over protective…..

Then I found him….

Surprised He looked fat…mashaAllah… I brought him home… He sacred at first but after awhile he recognize his home . He change… grow become brave cat. He does not need me to defense him from the big cat who bother him… Subhanllah Allah do really care of you…. He the best protector and the best care of His creature….

You made me realize Allah has created things with balance.. The mercy of Allah to protect and care you… Indeed Allah the best teacher… We human being who often do mischief to destroy the balance….

He [Allah] Who created the seven heavens one above another: No want of proportion wilt thou see in the Creation of ((Allah)) Most Gracious. So turn thy vision again: seest thou any flaw? Again turn thy vision a second time: (thy) vision will come back to thee dull and discomfited, in a state worn out. [Qur’an Al Mulk 67: 3-4]

Subhanallah…

If one day I have children…. will I raise them with that kind blind love… over protective… make him to be a sterile….pure….like a white paper….to be the one who will be ready colored by any colors of his environment?

Subhanallah…

or

Will I raise them to be a strong person, a tough one, an immune that can face any bad influence from environment….. not imitate … not follow them…. …just like a person who immune of a virus that always attacking the body… ?…

I have to learn the meaning of losing... perhaps this what they feel… thousands of Acehnese’s parents who losing their children… thousand’s palestian’s parents who losing their children…

I have to learn more how to love ……..

More than that..... I have to learn how to losing the beloved......



wallahualam...



lahaulla walla quwata illa billah...

Rytha
Bandung 2005

Related topic:

~Then the Angle will not belittle us: "Oh what a man he is !'~
http://rnuraini.blogspot.com/2006/04/then-angle-will-not-belittle-us-oh.html

~ Ghurabaa [The Strangers] ~

Rasulullah sallahu alaihi wassalam said :

"Islam began as something strange, and it will return as something strange the way it began. So give Tooba [Glad tidding] for the Strangers" [1]

In another narration companion Radiyallahu anhu asked Rasulullahu sallahu alaihi wassalam :

Who are they, O Messenger of Allaah?

Rasulullahu Salallahu alahi wassalam said: “Those who are righteous when the people are corrupt.”[2]

Strange, that word refer to small number of people….they who stick to adhering to Qur’an and the Sunnah Rasulullah sallahu alaihi wassalam…

They are the one who, every time hear a hadeeth, rushes to apply it and very keen to act upon it, whether it is mustahabb or naafil.

They walk among people like a stranger.. They have to face many challenge in daily basis….

They have to face their own beloved parents, siblings, relatives, colleague to be strange….

They have to patiently bearing the difficulty of being a stranger….

They will call other to Islam.. to adhere the truth teaching of Islam.. to love the sunnah…

They are firm people who trying to voice the messages of Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam who said:

“You must adhere to my Sunnah and the way of the Rightly-Guided Caliphs who come after me. Adhere to it and cling to it strongly, and beware of newly-invented matters, for every newly-invented matter is an innovation (bid’ah) and every innovation is a going astray.” [3]

They have to patient no one response but few…. Instead of that they will be accused by so many fitnah… blind accusation to be different.. … have to keep struggling to make their voice hear but just little…to bring other to the light of islam…

They have to leave all forms of corruption, nationalism, free-mixing, customs and traditions etc. purely for the sake of Allah, never fearing from the blame of the blamers.

The glad tiding for the stranger……

Rasullah sallahu alahi wassalam said…

“Ahead of you there lie days of patience, during which being patient will be like grasping a hot coal. The one who does good deeds then will have a reward like that of fifty men who do such deeds. – And someone else added – They said: O Messenger of Allaah, the reward of fifty of them? He said: “The reward of fifty of you.” [4]

Allah is the source of our strength …. May Allah make us proud to be the minority …..

My dear strangers….. Have trust in Allah.. be firm always……

Wallahualam bishshowab…

Rytha

Batam 2 January 2006

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[1] This hadeeth was narrated by Muslim (145) from Abu Hurayrah. “Tooba (glad tidings)” has been interpreted as meaning Paradise or a great tree in Paradise.

[2] Narrated by Abu ‘Amr al-Daani in al-Sunan al-Waaridah fi’l-Fitan (1/25) from the hadeeth of Ibn Mas’ood; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah (1273); the hadeeth is also narrated in Saheeh Muslim (145).

[3] Narrated by Abu Dawood (4607) and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.

[4] Narrated by Abu Dawood (4341); al-Tirmidhi (3085) and he said: it is a hasan hadeeth. It was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah (494). In some reports of the hadeeth it says: “They are the ones who will revive my Sunnah and teach it to the people.”

~ S U P P L I C A T I O N S ~

"O Allah:
All the Praises are for You:
You are the Lord of the Heavens and the Earth.
You are the Light of the Heavens and the Earth.
You are the Maintainer of the Heaven and the Earth and whatever is in them.

O Allah!
Forgive me my sins that I did in the past or will do in the future,
The sins I did in secret or in public.
Accept my repentance, wash away my sin,
Let there be a far away distance between me and my sins
As You have set far away the East and the West from each other."

"O Allah,
I seek refuge in Thee from the evil of what I hear, from the evil of what I see,
I seek refuge in Thee from the evil of what I speak, from the evil of what I think,
I seek refuge in Thee from hypocrisy, and evil character

"O Allah,
I seek refuge in Thee from objectionable characteristics, deeds and passions
I seek refuge in Thee from Knowledge which does not profit,
I seek refuge in Thee from a heart which is not submissive,
I seek refuge in Thee from a soul which has an insatiable appetite,
I seek refuge in Thee from a supplication which is not heard."

"O Allah
Make true my tongue
Draw out malice in my breast
Guide me to the path of peace; bring me from darkness to light,
Save me from obscenities, outward or inward,

"O Allah,
Grant me enough of what Thou makest lawful
So that I may dispense with what Thou makest unlawful,
And make me able by Thy grace to dispense with all but Thee."

"O Allah,
Set right for me my religion which is the safeguard of my affairs.
Set right for me the affairs of my world wherein is my living.
Set right for me my Hereafter on which depends my after-life.
And make the life for me a source of abundance for every good
Make my death a source of comfort for me protecting me against every evil."

"O Allah,
Make my character beautiful
Place light in my heart, light in my sight, light in my hearing,
Place light on my right hand, light on my left hand,
Place Light above me, light below me, light in front of me, light behind me,
And enhance light for me."

"O Allah,
Provide me with Thy love
The love of those whose love will benefit me with thee.
Join our hearts with Thy Love
Gather us with them that Thou Love

"O Allah,
Make the things I love with which Thou hast provided me a strength
to me regarding what Thou lovest.

Make the things I love which Thou hast turned away
from me a means of my devoting myself to what Thou lovest."

O Allah!
For You have all knowledge,
Support me with Your Power
I ask for Your Bounty,
For You are able to do things while I am not,
For You know while I do not;
For You are the Knower of the Unseen.
Bestow me the matter that good for me
If the matter both at present and in the future
If the matter good in my religion, in this life and in the Hereafter,
Fulfill it for me and make it easy for me,

If You know that the matter is not good for
Then divert me from it and choose for me what is good wherever it may be, a
And make me be pleased with it."

O Allah,
Bring us a blessing in this world
Bring us a blessing in the next life
Guard us from punishment of Hell.
Make me grateful to Thee, mindful of Thee,
Full of fear towards Thee, devoted to Thy obedience,
Humble before Thee, or penitent.

'O Allah,
I submit my soul to You,
I surrender myself to You,
I turn my face to You.
I entrust my affairs to You.
I believe in You
I depend upon You
I retreat unto You for protection with hope and fear in You.
There is no resort and no savior but You

O, Allah
Your Word is the Truth,
Your Promise is the Truth,
The Meeting with You is the Truth,
Paradise is the Truth,
The Hell Fire is the Truth,
The Hour is the Truth.
You are my only God (Whom I worship)
and there is no other God for me (i.e. I worship none but You)."

O, Allah
You are my only God (Whom I worship)
and there is no other God for me (i.e. I worship none but You)."
Please answer my supplications
Ameen

Rytha
Bandung, 9 October 2005

~Proud to be Mother~

Mom
you are a moon dancing inside my heart
Dad You area sun warming my heart
Dad MomI love you both Like I love jannah (paradise)
May Allah kiss mom dad In His beauty paradise Later
(Faiz January 2002)

My beloved mom MomYou always by my side

You always inside my heart You smiles are the moon

Your dedication like the sun which always give the light

And your love is the air Which I breath everyday

Even if you’re in sad Even you’re in difficulty

You steps firmly To make me be a great man
Thanks you my beloved mom
(Faiz November 2002)

Mom only wrote few poems for me

but more I observe her

her smiles are poems her sights are poems her advice are poems

her caress and her prays are love poems

which are conveyed for me continuously continuously

even when I sleep
(Faiz May 2003)

Mom you the one who lead meto the butterfly way.
(Faiz September 2003)

Those poems is my bad translation from a beautiful mind of Abdurrahman Faiz. It touch me so much when the first time read his poems. I found his poems accidentally when I was browsing. They are not that special if those poems were written by an adult or a famous poet. But it does really capture my heart because that’s written by a very young boy. Faiz was born in Jakarta 15 November 1995.

Anyone who read his poems could feel how much he loves his mother, really a pure love, a sincere love, not a fake love, not just merely an arrangement of beautiful words, because it come from the core of heart an innocent young boy. I guess he could reflect his loves to his mom because he feel love from her, because he proud of her.

It’s a dream of every mother to have such devote son. We cannot find any formal education institution [even the highest degree education] to teach someone how to make the children love their mom. Love also cannot be forced by an order, because love is a unique bond of heart that grows through the process. I believe children love their mom because they feel a sincere affections, caring, protection, comforts, warm, tenderness, etc from a mother through intense interactions.

In history, we know Imam Abu Hanifah RA. He was known as a scholar that devoted to his mom. He used to walk for miles to escort his mom lead by his hand his mom’s donkey just to satisfy her wish to pray behind another scholar that she thought better than Abu Hanifah. Sometimes He also had to company her to meet some scholars to ask thins when his mom didn’t satisfy with his answers [even if those scholars themselves didn’t feel more capable than Abu Hanifa]. I believe Imam Abu Hanifah felt a great care and affection of a mom. That love which grew a love and devotion to his mother sincerely.

Somehow, we feel secure if anytime we could see our mother around. The first person that we want to meet when we arrived in home from school, sometimes we haven’t put our bag or changed our clothes, but we just search where is she. When we find her, we just happy to see her smiles, we always enthusiasm to know what she cooked for that day and always enjoy her companion during the lunch to tell about our school, our friends etc. She also the first person we want to share if we sad, the first person that we want to share if we are in trouble. She is someone who always supports us when we are down, someone who will cry for us when we are sick. If there is someone who always prays whole of time for our goodness unconditionally, that is a mom. If there is someone who would sacrifice anything for us, that is our mom.

We know many great people, and their mom contributed a lot for their success, just the history didnt record their names.

We know Imam Malik bin Anas RA very well, but we almost do not know anything about his mother. In fact, his mother took a big path for his success.

One night Imam Malik’s father asked few questions about religions to all family members. All people can answer him very well except imam Malik. At that time, he was just 10 year old, although he already memorized the holly Qur’an and some hadist, he just like other kids who spent a lot of time to play – and still had difficult time to understand complex things. His father got furious and said Imam Malik spent his time too much for play with his bird that made him forget to study. He cried, he rarely cried, but that matter made him sad. The first person he searched was his mother. He had a great mother. He came to her for protection, and asked advice for all his matters.

Start from that day his mom always wake up every morning, bathed him, prepared nice clothes, applied some perfume and put “sorban” on his head then companied him to a halaqoh [religious gathering]. His mom always supported him and accompanied him anytime. That habit made Imam Malik known as a prominent scholar who always had good smell and wore nice dress anytime he attended the halaqoh or taught in halaqoh

We know Imam Syafi’i, but we do not know very well who his mother. Imam Syafi’i was from a poor family and his dad often left him to work far away, and just in very young, his dad passed away. His mom had to be a single parent for 2-year-old boy. She was very faithful woman [memorize Quran, hadist and knowledgeable in many syar’i matters] and Imam syafi’i always follow her advice and always search her advise. She sent him to study in some scholars. She invested anything to his educations, to provide things for his journeys in search of knowledge.

Be a good mother is not profession but rather a responsibility for every muslimah. But a choice just have title as “a housewife” indeed really a generous choice [because not all woman can do that – see Japan, France, etc…. They have less young people...perhaps in the crisis of young generation].

If we considered “be a mother” as a professional career, this is a career that needs to be paid very expensively. A government should provide a big salary for any women who devote their life for this. Because be a mother is really a unique profession, 24 hours works, demand the totality of physically and emotionally. They have to have a solid concept and the best method how to product the best generations. They have to have multi talents, smart, well educated, beside they also have to able behave multi characters, sometimes they need be parent, friend, sister, counselor, accountant, doctor, good chef, etc.

The quality of their works would be significant for the glorious of a nation. If they product the best generations, then they will lead the best nation. They have to sincere if people will never know them; even many people would consider they are nothing. They just feel inner satisfaction when they see the result of their hard work, a robbani generation with good behaviors, pious, wise, intelligent, and tough.

Anyway….it’s better our children think we are their world – the most loveable person, think that we the most precious person, but the world doesn’t know who we are, rather than all the world know us, all the world love us… but in front of our children.. They don’t know “who we are”.

Bandung 5 September 2004

Rytha

For my mom and all my sisters in Islam who choose be mother,…..feel proud of it…

And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command), "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal. [Luqman HQ 31:14]

HR BUKHARI Volume 8, Book 73, Number 2:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
A man came to Allah's Apostle and said,
"O Allah's Apostle! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?"
The Prophet said, "Your mother."
The man said. "Who is next?" T
he Prophet said, "Your mother."
The man further said, "Who is next?"
The Prophet said, "Your mother."
The man asked for the fourth time, "Who is next?"
The Prophet said, "Your father. "

Volume 4, Book 52, Number 41:
Narrated Abdullah bin Masud:
I asked Allah's Apostle, "O Allah's Apostle! What is the best deed?"
He replied, "To offer the prayers at their early stated fixed times."
I asked, "What is next in goodness?"
He replied, "To be good and dutiful to your parents."
I further asked, what is next in goodness?"
He replied, "To participate in Jihad in Allah's Cause."
I did not ask Allah's Apostle anymore and if I had asked him more, he would have told me more.

HR BUKHARI Volume 8, Book 73, Number 6:
Narrated Al-Mughira:
The Prophet said, "Allah has forbidden you
(1) to be undutiful to your mothers
(2) to withhold (what you should give) or
(3) demand (what you do not deserve), and
(4) to bury your daughters alive.
And Allah has disliked that
(A)you talk too much about others
(B)ask too many questions (in religion), or
(C)waste your property."