~Lets it~

Ya  Allaah…

When my heart in wound…
Don’t let it away from your deen
When my heart in pain
Don’t let it astray from your deen ..
When my heart in bleed
Lets it always love your deen
Let s it always love to gain the knowledge of your deen…
Guide it always to Your way
The way of the Owner of every heart…
La haula walla quwata illa billah…

~Which of the Blessings of Allah that will you deny~

Never complaints whatever live goes,” which of the Blessings of Allah that will you deny?”

Never give up and tired of life, “Verily, along with every hardship is relief “.

Remember always that "Allah is with those who are patient”.

InshaAllah we will survive

~Tongue oh Tongue~

Tongue oh Tongue

Tongue oh tongue…

Why you so sharp….

Sharper than sword….

Stab straight to the heart ….

Mind of mind..

What you do…

What you think…

Why you let the tongue slip…

Did she say what actually you think?

Heart of heart….

The commander of body..

What you do…

What you command to the mind?

Did you so dark that make you so blind?

Rytha Nur’aini

Batam 5 August 2009

~The sun and the moon~

The sun and the moon

What a so mysterious moon

What a so gorgeous moon

The light of the darkness…

The celebrity of the night

Everyone loves the moon

Everyone adores the moon

The sun….

Nobody adore him

Nobody know how he looks like

Nobody wants to see him.

His presence always wait

His shine always give warm

But nobody care how is he

Nobody see the hot he feels…

Nobody the suffer he feels

For giving the shine to the other

Who give the light of the moon?

The sun makes the moon shining

He only a big dark ugly circle on the sky without the sun…

Appear with rough surface..

With so many narrows..

With so many mountains..

With the barren soils

With the massive stones…

Moon would be death…

Lets alone to give a life to other…

Do I the moon, which use the light of other?

Do I the moon, which couldn’t live without the sun?

Do I, one who no deserve the compliments of the sun?

Do I, only living in illusion?

Rytha Nur'aini

Batam

14 March 2006

~Self Pride ? ~

Be lenient and soft can tarnish your pride.

How to punish more,

You are hurt, but hurt more back.

Only because of pride

Doesn’t care the tears drop from one’s eyes,

kneeling and begging for a sorry,
Tearing one’s heart.

throw her pride, go down beneath the earth.

There is nothing remains,

One time when you sit back and gain back your consciousness,

You have lost everything,

A big wound and big hole in someone heart,

A traumatic feeling,

Create a shadow in one’s life,

Not less than physical pains.

Things will never be the same.

Arrogant pride won’t give anything

The pride should be when you can care your beloved feeling.

The pride when you have unlimited forgiveness and patience.

The pride is when you are hurt you can restrain yourself to not hurt back

Even if you have the chance do that..

The self pride when you can control your emotion when you want to explode

The pride is when the love overcome the egoism

That’s the true winner….

Rytha Nur’aini

Batam 29 July 2009

~Who am I ~

I exist since the time of Adam and Eve.
I am the truth, carry the same eternal messages revealed through the ages.
I carry the noble precepts and principles.
I am an un-doubtable argument, unchangeable supremacy and undeniable wisdom.
I am such a set of principles and beliefs that will fully satisfy every seeker of the truth and reality.
I sent to human being with the highest standard of worship and obedience.

I bring back the nature of mankind toward their Creator.
I raise their status from idols worshiper toward worship The One God the Most Almighty.
I free the mankind from the slavery of creatures to be the noble slave of The Creator
I raise the status of nation from ignorance and backward to be a nation of glory and victory

I am not terrorist or pretender.
I am not hatred or adversity.
I am not harm or affliction.
I came with the messages of love and peace,
Give the peace of mind and the surety of heart.
I create nation full of justice and greatness, until the justice spread like flower

I illuminate the soul of ignorance; guide the hearts of so blind,
I am the candle lighten the hearts with the ray of wisdom
Purify the heart from dirt of sins and ignorance.

I am the way of honesty
I am the way of trustworthy
I teach to share in prosperity and adversity
Giving openly in charity with the heart of sincerity
Giving all what loved in generosity
Care other like care oneself as part of dignity.

I invite human to embrace a noblest way of life, with the messages clear and pure.
I make them become fair, kind and helpful.
I change the nation from real savage to the gentleness.
I teach what the good character is
I change a drunker who drink all night, wage war all day, shameless fornicate become the best human being.

I safe the infant girls from buried alive in jest.
I elevate their status from the inferiority to have a significant role.
I put the paradise under their feet.
Make them equal in front of God, have the right to be treated equally.
I protect their right to life, the right to learn; the right to earn.
I give them the right to own and dispose property, the right to inherit.
I make them have right to choose a husband;
I protect their right as a wife, as a complete human being
I teach them to protect from immorality and pride

Black or White
From west to east, from south to North
All are all made from clay.
Forgot the color and forgot the pride.
I do not see what is outside but what inside.
I gather human heart as one, in the spirit of brotherhood.
I make their love of other as the perfection of their faith.

I am Islam
It is indeed a religion founded on truth
It is such a fountain head of learning that several streams of wisdom and knowledge flow from it.
It is such a lamp that several lamps will be lighted from it.
It is a lofty beacon of light illuminating the path of Allah.
It is a comprehensive way of life to all the creations

Rytha Nur'aini
Batam 27 August 2008
wrote and compiled for Hubby project

~The Sunset~

Kringggggggggg….
[Jennifer Lopez calling]

Ahmad is having an important meeting with his client…
But a name that appearing in his cellphone really makes him curious, he asks an excuse from his clients to answer that call…..

The clients node… They think.. Mr Ahmad is receiving very important call…..

Hesitantly Ahmad picks his cell….:

“Hello??”

“Assallammu’alaikum Hubby habibi hihihihihihihihi …”

“MashaAllah ummiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii… hahahahahahahahahaha … wa’alaikumsalam warohmatullahi wabarokatuh dear…..”

“Afwan Abi….. I changed my name in Abi's cellphone contact list while Abi’s sleeping  last night hehehehehehehehehe…”

“I see… Why you did that dear?….” [still smiling]

“ Mmmm Just for fun Dear……. In fact…Abi never picks up whenever ummi calling :(… Abi always said I am with clients, I am in the meeting or busy doing something……… even sometimes Abi just rejected ummi’s incoming call…. “

“Ummi… afwan sweetheart… Your hubby sometimes so much busy and not able to answer your call dear. “

“I understand dear… I am sorry.”

“So what make you call dear…Anything special..... Please do say fast.. I am having an important meeting with some clients right now…, They are waiting for me”

“Mmmmm…. Nothing that important… Just want to say Ummi going to visit sister Fatimah…”

“Ok dear… you can go…”

“Thanks dear… “

“I have to go back now dear… take care…”…

“Wait Abiii… It’s Ummi who calling….for the politeness let the one who start call to end the conversation first…. So it should be ummi who close the phone, hehehehehehe…… “

“Ok dear…” [Ahmad smilling]

“Ok My Dear Hubby habibi.. You can go back work…. Hehehehehehe… All best for you… Take care… I love you …Assallammu’alaikum”

“ Me too…..I will call u later..... Wa’alaikumsalam warohmatullahi wabarokatuh”

After few hours….

Kringggggggg….[ you got messages]…

Sender : Ummi..

“Abi Ummi is going to Sister Mirna house, please pick up ummi in Sister Mirna’s house at 5:00 pm.. From there Ummi need to go for monthly shopping.. but before that Abi please to pick up Zidan and Zahra in the house….Ummi need to buy new uniform for them… Abi has some food first at home….Please don’t eat anything outside…. Ummi already cooked some special food for hubby ..hehehehe…. . After shopping we need to visit the drug store to buy some medicines … The doctor gave new list of medicine but ummi havent had time to purchase it…….Oh Yes please don’t forget to buy some stuff that Ummi asked…. And also…..Please try to not come late my dear hubby habibi…….…jazakallahu khair”


Ahmad smiling….

He is so lucky for having Sarah as his wife.. She is so much caring and lovely wife… She take care everything efficiently, a very well arrange of everything… She is also a very very good cooker… She loves experience so much in the kitchen ...to innovate new menus. Ahmad gets so much praised from his office colleagues whoever taste Sarah’s foods. Sarah always prepares food for him to eat in office…she said it’s not good to have food outside… She manages to awake very early morning to prepare food for her husband ...she said... homemade food more health and more hygienist…

Everyone who doesn’t know Sarah thinks her education background something to do with chief or something….But actually she is an architect and done her master degree in economy major..... But her truely dedication to her beloved children and husband make her decide to be full time mother and wife...

Sarah loves so much to decorate our house. She really makes our house really like a small jannah on the earth… The kids love their rooms, she designs them very nicely. She changes the living rooms interior design many times…. … the touch of arts in every single part of our house… Everything that she touche become a gold...

Her background in economic help so much controling our financial matter… She really care her husband wealth. She always said it one of her responsibility as a wife to manage our financial matter…. She makes our financial planning very detail…. Even she has arranged the plan for the next some years till our kids reach university… Sarah said.. it’s good to plan everything earlier to make sure our kids will get best in their education… mashaAllah…

**************

Ahmad never worries about my home and his kids…because Ahmad trusts they are in the best hand….

Everyday when Ahmad comes back from office, prior to sleep.. Sarah always update everything that happened in the house… everything about their beloved kids.. She knows what zidan first word.. She knows when Zahra starts crawling, standing, etc ….

She seems can make all small things sound very interesting for her… She always share them with enthusiasm.

It just sometimes he hardly bear to hear what Sarah sharing with him….. the only words he hear from sarah is… “Abi… Abi….Abiiii…. Are you listening to me ?????…. Huhuh… Abi sleeping…. “

He wants to hear completely what his wife telling.. but sometimes it just unbearable to keep awake after work whole day….

Ahmad smilling……

******

Ahmad is so much busy … just After 1 hour he remembers he has to reply his wife messages….

Kringggggg….. [ You got messages]

From Beloved Hubby:

“Ok Ummi…...”

Sarah.. just sight… Abi oh Abi … I even knows what will be your reply dear before I read your messages…. You will be only say ”OK… OK Ummi”…. no matter so much length messages that Ummi send…

At times Abi will only say “mee too” whenever Ummi said “ Abi I love you” “Abi I miss you .”…

Whenever Abi says "Abi very b usy now ...I will call u again later "... Ummi knows... Abi will never call back..... Some years ago... Ummi will always wait Abi calling back.. Ummi didnt sleep.... Ummi didnt go anywehre... waiting hubby call back.....

Subhanallah… no matter what Abi is the best for ummi…

Sarah just smiling… she understands her husband so much busy …Anyway man not like a woman… ….. but for sometimes please try to be romantic Abi…. Hehehehehe…

******

After few hour….

Kringggggggggg…..

Unknown number..

“Hello”

“Assallammu’alaikum warohmatullahi wabarokatuh Ahmad, this is Mirna, I am calling you from hospital, Ahmad… I think you should come here ”

“Wa’alaikumsalm warohmatullahi wabarokatuh , what’s happened ukhti?”

[Mirna start crying….]

“Oh Ahmad….Akhi… please come here soon…… Sarah suddenly attacked by Asthma…. But this time is different… she is coma… she in ICU now…”

“Innalillahi wa inna ilahi rojiun….. I will come there soon….”

Ahamd run to the park and start his car… His tears unbearable falling down from his eyes… he wishpering "ya Allah please don’t take my wife… I love her so much I need her so much…"

He remembers how his wife always smiling, always checking him anytime when he is in office… always send his long messages…always ask if he has lunch ... He becomes so much pamper with all her loves and attentions…. He just cant imagine what will be his live without her….

He might have acted so much indifferent… It’s his lack as a man… He always busy with his jobs. All his doing just for the guaranty of the future of his family …. But that make him forget to give best care to his beloved…

Ahmad reach the hospital……..

He run straight away to the ICU room….. he meets Mirna and the rest family waiting outside…. Ahamad doesnt hear what they say… his mind only wants to see his beloved wife….

His wife Sarah is there…she is sleeping with some equipments around her…. MashaAllah she still look beauty and peace…. Ahmad holds his wife hands, he starts whispering on her ears… "I love you so much dear… please don’t leave me…. I promise inshaAllah will get you more time… We will have long vacation dear, only both of us… Please wake up dear.. talk to me.. I miss hear your voice.. I will be hear to listen you whole days and night…. "

Ahmad just crying….. his wife doesn’t response him…. He sees tears come out from his wife eyes… mashaAllah… She must hear what he says…

Ahmad whispering again more… he wishpering the word of tauhid lailaha ilallah many times……until he tired himself.. but his wife doesn’t response anymore at all.. until he feel tired and asleep beside her….

Ahmad awakes with the noisy around.. he sees the docter, the nurse busy. He sees they are pumping his wife chest, electricity shocking… etc… He just realize something happened with Sarah… he starts get panic.. put the nurse asks him to wait outside….

After some minutes.. the doctor come out…

He says… : "I am sorry Ahmad…. We have tried our best.. your wife has gone in peace… "

That word seem ruin all his world…. the pain unspeakable. As a true believer Ahmad only can says.. : "innalillahi wa inna ilahi rojiun….”

Only Allah knows best how it feels… Oh dear Sarah please forgives me.. May Allah give you the best place for you… The sun is gone….. The days will be so dark…it will be so much different without you dear….. . Lahaula walla quwata illa billah….


Rytha
Batam 25 November 2007

~Keep Writing~

Assallammu’alaikum warohmatullahi wabarokatuh

Dear my blog readers, my lovely sisters and friends….. It has been so long I haven’t updated this blog…. It seems I have been away from many things since I get married, then pregnant and have baby… Mashallah…. Life run so fast, there are so many things changes… so many things which I leave behind… astaghfirullah …. Faith increases when one obeys Allaah and decreases when one disobeys Him

Few days back my dear beloved hubby said a sentence which became a very gentle reminder for me… he said: “ Dear we have to think to do more to invest more for amal jariyyah (ongoing charity)”…..

Indeed….. Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam said : “When a man dies, his good deeds come to an end except three: ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge and a righteous son who will pray for him.” Narrated by Muslim, 3084.

What investment that I am going to invest for hereafter

Inshallah straighten my intention to keep writing. In writing that mean It will make me reading, learning and sharing which may benefit other. May this can be part of my investments to my hereafter, for knowledge which I learn and spread to other …

May Allah gives me strength also to educate my dear son Ibraheem to be one of righteous man who will pray for his parents…He can benefit other from knowledge which taught by his parents and spread them to other … .
May Allah bless me and my husband wealth which can benefit ummah …

Ameen….

~ Layla oh Layla ~

Found this writing in my old archive folder….
Hopefully can benefit other…

Layla oh Layla

I always thought she was simple and always had a happy life…

She always could make things interesting….
She always could make other think her life just so comfort and happy…
She taught me there were a lot of happiness in simplicity..
I always amazed by the way she saw her life..

Once time :

“Have you eaten?” “Come here join with us having some food”…
“No thanks I have eaten.. “
“What did you eat ?”
“I ate rice with “kerupuk”, and cucumber… “
I was wondering how the taste eating only with them …. But she said it as if she just ate very delicious meal…mashaAllah…

That day she taught me how grateful I am.. I spent too much money just for eat…
She always showed very much regret to see money spend for unimportant things…which some of us feel that just very common….

Another time:
“ Sister thanks for the chicken.. “
“It’s very delicious.. “
“I ate it with my husband and my brother in law…”
“Unfortunately I fried it too long.. So It’s bit too dry… and I added too much salt..”
I said: “But you said it delicious”
She smile shyly… and said
“I always consider everything which given by other delicious… “

She always showed great happiness anytime we gave her something…as if we became the most generous person on the earth…
She accepted anything that we gave with tear on her eyes to show how grateful she is..

The other time :

“Layla….lets eat outside… but we eat there”
“No I cant.. During these 5 years of my marriage I always eat with my husband, I can’t eat without my husband”.
Another sister told me that she even couldn’t force her to eat some of food… she just sit and stared at my friend eating… She just didn’t dare to eat delicious foods herself in fact her husband not join her…

MashaAllah… She loved her husband dearly…

Sometimes we asked her to sleep in house.. but she always said.. "I can’t away from my husband… I cant sleep if not beside him… "

She said…
"Sister. .My husband is very nice man.. "
"He was widower when I married him.. but he had divorced from his previous wife.. "
"I have good relationship with his ex wife… "
"He always wake up earlier, he would make some tea , clean, wash and sometime cook… "
"He can’t read and uneducated.. But I love him… "
"I grateful he want to marry with an ugly girl like me… "
"My mother in law love me so much…her house always cleans…that why I should always keep my house clean too…because Even if I was ugly but my house should look clean … "

MashaAllah she always said good about his husband and his family

Then finally…. Last night..
It was the peak of everything…
Those amazing stories just torn apart became a painfully stories…
I believe she just didn’t have way anymore to hide anything and really need someone to share
She was very sick… being so hurted…
She cried when saying … her life actually just full of pains
I could feel how broke her heart to tinny pieces…
She just found out if her husband cheat behind her..

He never divorced his first wife…
He lied … his parents also lied
All people back home considered she was a naughty girl who took someone else husband…
His wife spread bad things to her..she said bad things to her parents….

She worked hard as house maid but all money only for him..
She didn't have money on her hand.. in fact she the one who earnt most of them…
He always knew where she kept her money.. and dare to take it that away…
He used that money for his own pleasure… sometimes for gamble.. astaghfirullah…
She hurted to see how he treated his sister well but in other hand he even didn’t approve her tiny request…
She told a lot of sad memories which she tried to hide…

The peak of surprised… She said
He tortured her a lot of times…
He almost killed her… brought knife to threaten her..
He hit her, her mouth swollen
He forced her to work with low paid just few weeks after delivered her baby…
She was bleeding during work…
All her money that she search with her sweat had to send to his husband and his family
Even she didnt have money to send to her own parents who take care her daughter back home…
We used to think her husband love her too much until she always follow her when some time she came out to company me playing basket ball..
But in fact it's just because of his jealousy and over protected…

She acted that nice… to cover up the cruelity of her beloved one..
Love was blind….
She still loved him…
She maybe would never reveal about this if she was not really sick… physically and mentally and need a heart relieve her pains…


Lahaula walla quwata illa billah…

O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will; and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the Mahr you have given them, unless they commit open Fahishah (illegal sexual intercourse or disobey their husbands); and live with them honourably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing through which Allâh brings a great deal of good.

(Qur'aan Soorah an-Nisaa : 19)

Batam 3 July 2005
Rytha Nur’aini

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~ Physical Beauty and The Marriage [Part 2] ~

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When the beauty fade
Nothings last forever

Dear brothers in Islam……

There is no creature in this world that can be so much deceived by the beauty of woman but you brothers….Rasulullah salallahu alahi wassalam said “I am not leaving behind any fitnah (trial, temptation) more harmful to men than women.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4706). And in another narration he sallahu alahi wassalam warned, …….so beware of this world and beware of women, for the first fitnah (temptation, trial) that befell the Children of Israel was concerning women.” (Reported by Muslim, 4925).

Brothers….
Marrying a beautiful girl is not something wrong. It can strengthen your heart and shield you from falling into haram things…

You can find so many beautiful girls with many kind types, shapes and styles from oriental face, European, American, Asian, Arabian, etc… You will find the natural beauty to the fake beauty. Actually you even can’t compare it. You will never know if their lips real or plastic, if their nose real of just created…

There are so many number of woman compare than man. If you only concern about beauty you can so easily pick one on the street….

Do you know brother how much woman themselves being so much obsessed by the word of beauty? They can sacrifice everything to become more and more beautiful. Women have to get through painful diets. Some of them do cosmetic surgery; they apply tons of chemical make up daily. They have to spend thousands and millions dollars for maintain their beauty just to get tummy tuck to maintain flat and beautiful stomach, such as liposuction etc, they meet the surgeon to create beautiful butt, beautiful breasts…. Etc… They turn freak out about their beauty ….

Imagine brother… What if you fall to that kind of woman….

Brothers in Islam….

All of them just superficial beauty…. No matter what, no matter how much money you have ….those beauty will be slowly fade away through the time… This is the work of the nature…. Your beautiful wife can not get young and fresh forever…she is getting old day by day….. Someone who known as beautiful princess will not always become princes… soon will be another younger beautiful princess who will look more beautiful than her… there always sky above the sky…..

My dear brother who marriage only for beauty….

Do you remember the day finally you could marry your beautiful wife? … You felt so proud in front of your friends, relatives, colleagues. All wondered what thing special from you until you could marry such beautiful lady … All people started of you jealously… How luckiest man on earth you were… You felt like flying… such a good fortune you had

What you feel now brother…Can that beauty really strengthen your soul? Do you feel the comfort with her beauty that she also exposes for the other? What you see also can be seen by the other man…. Anyway… Day by day her beauty becomes something not special anymore. You see her every day, sometimes when she angry and argue with you ..you feel her beauty just vanish… even another woman look more attractive and beautiful than her…. She grows become fat.... that flat stomach just messy up after she delivered some babies… Her smooth skins just getting wrinkle…

Beauty that not framed by the inner beauty - the strength in her deen.. That beauty will be only be the disaster, become the fitnah in your life…...Your marriage will turn like the hell in earth ....full of fighting, disagreement, especially when anytime you advice her about her deen..

You already unjust to your children by give them a wrong mother…that they will grow up in the hand of woman who care more her physically beauty than care her children…I have seen some ladies they buy every new coming nice dress and full of make up and color… while she keep her children like the beggar…and it enough buy the second hand dress..

Brother finally when you grow old….when your sexually desire decrease you will know what you actually need.. Someone that can bring peace in your heart, a true life partner that bring peace in your heart, someone who will be hand in hand ....help each other to get closer to your Creator.

That day you will find out the physically beauty is not everything, there is something more crucial and fundamental for the happiness of marriage.. that is her deen and her commitment in her belief…. Her personality, her inner beauty, her brain, her heart, her sincerity, her truth, her lovely nature….. those beauty inshaAllah will be stronger and be part of her that will make you see her keep beauty through the time.. bring you the comfort and the happiness… that beauty will be the true beauty that make you soul complete…

It was narrated that Thawbaan said: Umar asked Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam: O Messenger of Allaah, what kind of wealth should we acquire? He said: “Let one of you acquire a thankful heart, a tongue that remembers Allaah and a believing wife who will help him with regard to the Hereafter.” Narrated and classed as hasan by al-Tirmidhi (3094). In another version it says: “who will help him with his faith.” Ibn Maajah (1856).

The life is a temporary accommodation, and the best of its accommodations is a righteous wife. [Recorded by Muslim, Ahmad and An Nasa’i] The best woman is that who pleases you when you look at her, obey you when you order her, and safeguard you during your absence in regard to herself and your wealth [Recored by At-Tabarani (in Al-Kabir) and others]

May Allah guide all of us in the straight path, Guide our heart to make the best choice and decision in life to please Him always first in all things we do inshallah

Finish

Rytha
Batam
Batam 5 December 2007

~My life is belong to You~

Allah
My life is belong to You
But I am still complaining for ordeals of this life

Allah
My life is belong to You
But I am still moaning of my heart bleeding

Allah
My life is belong to You
But I am still transgressing your laws

Allah..
My life is belong to You
Please heal my heart
Be more ikhlas and ihsan…

Allah
My Life is belong to You
Forgive Your weak slave
Forgive Your sinner slave

Guide My Heart
Lead it to any way You wish
Lead my life to any way You please…
Let me be Your humble grateful slave...

Ameen…

Rytha
Batam, 15 May 2008

~Expect & respect your Wife jealousy Part 4 ~

Assallammu’alaikum warohmatullahi wabarokatuh

My dear husband Ahmad…

If Allah allows me I had flied to the sky to bring the stars as gift for you, but He the Almighty says the stars is for the lamps that adorn the sky and the missiles to drive away the Syaithan… Therefore I let them there as the adornment of sky so that you can keep seeing its beauty.

I want you know dear, for me you are like the star in my life that always lighten my sky, you adorn my life with so many beautiful things… Marrying such lovely and understanding husband like you is one of the happiest and the greatest blessing in woman life..... alhamdulillah…

Dear…
Jazakallahu khair for such lovely email, May Allah increase you in knowledge and wisdom. May Allah strengthen that love for His sake forever…May Allah make you always keep that lovely and sweet.... ameen.

In this first year of our marriage I realize we have been through so many new things, so many up and down. We just began the new life. You are learning how to be a leader in our family; you are learning how to care , how to love someone in your life. I believe it's not an easy task for you dear to care complicated creature named woman.

I aware… I myself still far from perfect.… There are a lot of things that I have to learn how to please and to serve you best, to become the coolness of your eyes, to be the comfort of your heart. Indeed it need such of patience and struggle, but it's a worth journey to be your righteous wife.. I want be your best treasure in the earth, to make you please as my path to Jannah.. inshaAllah….

I believe at times you feel some disappointments that made you had to restrain your anger. So much of times the emotion came over, I have tested so much of your patience…. Alhamdulillah at those times you always remember the saying of Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam that "The strong man is not the one who can wrestle (fight); the strong man is the one who controls himself at the time of anger.” [HR Al-Bukhaari 6114]…

The love for the sake of Allah alhamdulillah make you become someone just.... that love only make you angry to me for His sake, that love made you able to control your emotion, you not just burst out in anger at anytime you want. You never become someone egoist who just saying hurt things to satisfy yourself no matter that words that hurt for your wife. That love always be winner .....to calm you down.... That love always softener your heart to always forgive your dear one ....mashaAllah... that patience and understanding make my love and respect grow and grow toward you...

InshaAllah..... May Allah make us among of them who given the shade of His throne in the day of judgment because of our sincere love for His sake....

Dear.. this marriage is an important chapter of our life that we should try our best to pass with a lot of faith in Allah.. Seek help from Him always for his Mercy, to grant us more patience and understanding each other… We seek the refuge of Allah from the traps of Syaithan who always try their best to separate two hearts that being gathered by sacred bond of Marriage…

They are in racing to win their throne among their fellows to gain the greatness success of separation the husband and wife…Imam Muslim reported on the authority of Jabir ibn `Abdullah, who stated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"Iblis (Satan) places his throne upon water, then sends his groups. The closest to him are those who (tempt people to) commit the most grievous of sins (fitnah). One of them would approach him and say: I did such-and-such. Iblis would reply: You have done nothing. Another would approach and say: I did not leave him (a man) until I caused him to leave his wife and for them to be separated. Iblis would bring him close to his throne and would say: How good you are!”

May Allah protect us from their evils.....

Dear.. InshaAllah this is a earnest commitment in my heart, with all my heart and with all my soul I will not let them win… I will fight them my best till the last of my breath, I will keep running to you, to keep be closer to you, to keep pleasing you.. so that they will never win and never ever win to make you away from me, to destroy our bond of marriage .. I will never let those cruel enemy of mankind win over us….la haula walla quwata illa billah....

They are the worse of enemy that always consistently whispering hater in our heart, blow up our anger, pop up our arrogance and egoism to make us becoming a cruel creature to able hurting our beloved one... They will try to make us argue and fight over the small things..... Indeed they are the most worse of creature who keep trying persistently to find the doors to separate a husband from his wife. When we feel so much confident, they are preparing more traps to make us follow their footsteps until we fall to the grief sins…na'uzubillah...

Dear... You are my precious jewel, my soul companion in this world, inshaAllah we will be the eternal companion each other in jannah … . I oblige to protect you and guard you from the traps of syaithan. Be the garment that wraps you from haram things…. be your companion that keep try to pull you back to the straight path when you are mislead ….

Dear
At times when I felt jealousy …I keep asking you if Do you love me….It doesn’t mean I don’t trust you dear….

Ummul mu’munin Aishah used to ask Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam "How is your love for me?"

Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam didn’t ask aishah back ….
“Why you ask me that question?
“Don’t you trust me ? ”
“If not love you why I married you?”
“Of course I love you that why I still with you, what do you think?”
“What I should do to make you believe me if I love you? “ ….

Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam answer ummul mu’minin softly :
He sallahu alahi wassalam used to say : that love is "Like the rope's knot,"

MashaAllah that mean love of Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam for Aishah is so strong and secure.

Time after time thereafter, Ummul mu’minin Aishah would ask Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam again "How is the knot?"

Rasulullah didn’t reply her :
“I have told you …. I love you….., why keep asking me the same question all time”
“Should I have to tell I love again and again?”
“Oh Dear… Don’t ask me that silly question again and again!”
“My love not very cheap that I have to tell you all times…. The less it say…the more precious of it…. You know that !”

Rasulullah sallahu alaihi wassalam was very understanding …..Rasulullah sallahu alaihi wassalam replied Aishah : "Ala haaliha in the same condition." He affirmed her….his love still the same…the same strong and secure…

Dear….
When I am jealousy I may ask you that question….when I want to feel happy I will ask you the same question , when I am feeling sad I will ask this question again…It because I want my dear husband say he loves me all time….It bring so much secure and joy…Your love can make brighter my days…Your love give so much spirit and the strength to step all the difficulty that we are facing….

Dear….
Doesn’t matter how many great women that ever you met….Your wife always wants to be the best for you….. Sometimes she just want to hear your confirmation …

I did know you kind of lie when you told me I look gorgeous when my weight adds 10 kg due of pregnancy…But I just love to hear those lie so much.

Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam allows a man to lie with his wife…to make his wife happy… for the sake of harmony [not for cheating] [HR Muslim Book 32, Number 6303] May Allah counts that as the sincere du’a from you….

Dear…
Please don’t get irritate if in this month It already more than 10 times asked you if I am looking great …I know what I look in the mirror with my big tummy due to pregnancy …I just want you keep saying I still look beautiful for you….Please don’t get lost your cool, people said pregnant woman kinda difficult to handle. Woman always want to look beautiful for her husband in any situations…..The worse they much more want to keep looking beautiful in the eyes of their husband even when they are in the state of pregnancy.... They need much more extra love and care....

Ummul mu’minin Aishah tried to confirm her position among other Rasulullah Wives…..Once she asked Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam …

"O Messenger of God, tell me of yourself. If you were between the two slopes of a valley, one of which had not been grazed whereas the other had been grazed, on which would you pasture your flocks?"

"On that which had not been grazed," replied the Prophet. "Even so," she said, "and I am not as any other of your wives. "Everyone of them had a husband before you, except myself."

MashaAllah… Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam just smiled and said nothing. InshaAllah my dear husband also will keep smiling just like Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam smile to Aishah when anytime I asking him all the silly questions. Especially in this difficult time of my pregnancy

Please be patience dear…Just like Rasulullah salahu alahi wassalam be patience to ummul mu’mini Aishah…

Please be patience and be tender always…
Please deal with me like Rasulullah salallahu alahi salam deal with Aishah…

From the companion Anas Narrated : While the Prophet was in the house of one of his wives, one of the mothers of the believers sent a meal in a dish. The wife at whose house the Prophet was, struck the hand of the servant, causing the dish to fall and break.

Subhanallah….
That incident happened in front if prophet companions…What would be the reaction of husband in our time if his wife acts like that? I just can’t imagine…. Men tend to keep their status and pride higher…Maybe he will just easily to divorce his wife, what bad thing that she did in front of his friends……….

Anas then told us how rasulullah sallahualahi wassalam reacted in this incidence….

Anas said…Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam gathered the broken pieces of the dish and then started collecting on them the food which had been in the dish Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam then turned to companions radiyallahu anhum and said, "Your mother (my wife) felt jealous." Then Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam detained the servant till a (sound) dish was brought from the wife at whose house he was. He gave the sound dish to the wife whose dish had been broken and kept the broken one at the house where it had been broken [Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 152]

Subhanallah……The best Moslem is the one who has good character….

It’s not something strange what Aishah did…Rasulullah salalhu alahi wassalam comprehended this incident, He just forgave Aishah. He only said… “Your mother felt jealous”…He didn’t turn in rage at all….Subhanallah….

Jealousy is the nature of woman…..Please try to expect and respect it dear…

You have to expect it because it sign of her love, her gheerah is sign of her virtuous to protect you from evils. Her jealousy will be a self introspection for her to make her try to serve and make you happy and please more. Her gheerah will make her strive harder to elevate her status over the hoor of Jannah…..

You have to respect it…. because She is your half of soul, you should consider her feeling and comfort so much ….She is your life partner that already help you to away from haram things, she worth for your care. She has so much soft heart, so sensitive feelings that If you ignore it…. It will turn bad…If you belittle what she feel… Your home would like the hell…She is just like a glass vessel… so easy to break….She created from the bend rip that have to straighten with tenderness….

Allah trusts you to care and love that vessel, to put her in the very soft place of your heart, to manage and care it with the tenderness. You should put her very close in your heart, so that you will always remember her at anytime you want to do something wrong that you might would break that vessel…and You will feel fear the wrath of Allah if you try to betray the trust that Allah has given in your hand……..

Dear…
From the bottom of my heart.. Please forgive me for making your worry in these days….…Forgive me for trouble you with my jealousy…. I love you so much….

InshaAllah I will never ever do anything that I mentioned in my previous email…I truly love you. True sincere believers will never response bad with bad….Our love each other has to full of mercy and compassion. I will never do something that myself not comfortable with it inshaAllah…I will try my best to never do something that even slightly could trouble you….This jealousy will never go the limit that harm our deen…

May this marriage make us become a better person. Lets we try our best to train each other best... so that when our child grow up, they will find their parents as a good role model, they will find the tranquility and the comfort risen in the house that fill with a lot of love, respect and understanding.... They will see the sunnah of Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam apply in our daily life, make them closer to the sunnah time by time... inshaAllah...

May Allah makes us be the best companion in this world and be the best companion in hereafter... So we not include among them who hate and be enemy each other in the day of judgment.... ameen....

Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfirulla wa’atubu ilaika

With so much trust and love
Wassallammu'alaikum warohmatullahi wabarokatuh
Love
Your wife
Aishah….


Finish…

~Let not Our Hearts Deviate~

Allah
They were in Your part
They used to sit for Your knowledge..
They used to proud with the sunnah of Your Messenger

Now
They become misguidance
They become deviate
They proud to be misguided
They criticize the Sunnah of Your prophet …
They make tafseer the Qur'an with their nafs…
They proud to preach their misleading
Na’uzubillah….

Allah ….
“Yaa muqallib al-quloob thabbit qalbi ala deenak"
O Controller of the hearts,
Make my heart adhere firmly to Your religion

Allah
Please make me firm in your part
The straight part
The part of Rasulullah and his companions..
The part of As Salaf As Sholeh…

Allah…..
Let not my heart deviate from the truth
After You have guided me and grant me Mercy from You
Truly You are the Bestower…

Move me away from the other way
They way that the shaitan call in the end…
The way of them whom mislead….

Allah….
You know what we conceal and what we reveal.
Verily, You are the All-Hearer, the All-Knower.
Nothing on the earth or in the heaven is hidden from Allâh.
You know who of us the true sincere….

Allah
Punish us not if we forget or fall into error
Lay not on us a burden like that which You did lay on those before us
Put not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear.
Pardon us and grant us forgiveness.

Have mercy on us.
You are my Supporter and Protector

Allah
Give me the knowledge that is of benefit
The ability to do good deeds that will be accepted
To worship You in the best manner

Allah
Give the victory of this deen over the disbelieving people.
Protect my heart, my mind and my hand
Refrain my tongue of saying things that I have No knowledge...


Rytha
Batam 10 December 2007

~ Physical Beauty and The Marriage [Part 1] ~

My Dear sister in Islam…

What would feel when someone intends to marry you, he comes to your parent to see you. After he has seen you… He just goes back, never come back, not move forward with his proposal…

Will you hate this brother?

What you feel about a brother who asks people about your beauty first than your religion?

Will you feel so humiliated?

We may think a brother who asks about beauty… as someone who has not strong commitment in his deen…. We jump labeling him as someone who only care about beauty. We may would start to questioning his understanding of his deen...….

Astaghfirullah.. wa na’uzubillah..

Do you know sister..

Once upon a time……Imam Ahmad rahimahullah advice if a man want to propose marriage to a woman, he should ask about her beauty first, and if good things are said, he should ask about her religious commitment, and if good things are said, he should marry her. If he doesn't hear good things about her religious commitment, then he will have rejected her because of her religious commitment. He should not ask about her religious commitment first, then if good things are said, then he asks about her beauty, then if he does not hear anything good, he rejects her because of beauty and not because of religious commitment. End Quote [Syarh Muntahā’l Iradāt, vol. II, page. 623.]

Subhanallah….

Sister…..
Imam Ahmad rahimahullah… very wise…. he doesn’t want a mu’min leave a God fearing muslimah just because that muslimah not meet his standard of beauty in fact he fully aware she is a true believer who has strong understanding of her deen… He doesn’t like a mu’min refuse another muslimah not because of the deen matter…

Wallahualam…

Dear Sister…

It’s not something make you become more holy, more pure or make your marriage become more Islamic marriage by marrying someone who never being seen before…. With the same reason you cant refuse the right of you suitor to see you because of this kind of personal preference.

I am sorry for some sisters who raise in certain culture who belief these things, they consider this kind of marriage as something very Islamic, better and best.... In certain cases even cause the offense and humiliate feeling if the suitor come to see the girl...

I am sorry too for them who blindly accept someone that offered by their shaikh/teacher or the respected person. with the faith that would make them more pure and sincere.... Or some just accept it with whatever reasons such as afraid will be cursed by their fellows group of da'wah that they will start to doubt of his/her commitment in da'wah if asking to see candidate first... Some go with blindly marriage just in intention to show their obedient and their submission to the choice of shaikh... etc. .. Wa na'uzubillah...

This way of marriage is just the opposite of getting marriage where boys and girls have date each other and become so free in their relation. However... the first way is too extreme.... and another one is the wrong way... Allah knows best...

The sunnah of Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam is we are ordered to see the person that we are going to marry.... because it is the basis on which a very important decision affecting a person’s life will be taken

Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam told a companion Al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah that going to marry an Anshar lady : ‘Look at her, because it is more fitting that love and compatibility be established between you.’ [Reported by al-Daaraqutni, 3/252 (31, 32); Ibn Maajah, 1/574]

Rasulullah salahu alahi wassallam must have a wisdom by advising the companions to see first someone that he was going to marry. He salallahu alahi wassalam said.. it can strengthen the heart, more fitting the love and compatibility between both of couple. This sunnah inshaAllah ensure the love and affection will be generated between them........ subhanallah...Allah knows best.

Sister... unlike what we thought before... Actually this is a part of the sunnah our brother in Islam to choose a wife that suite for him in beauty, because it will give greater sense of tranquility and more likely help him lower his gaze. The one that meet his level of beauty that will keep him happy to build a family based on love and respect. That beauty will be a shield for him from fall to the haram things...

Allah knows best

My dear sister……

Please broaden your heart, keep be patience and always have trust in Allah….. If someone comes to ask your hand to marry then he cancel his intention to marry you because you are not meet his beauty standard, please don't be sad sister.... keep praising to Allah… be grateful to Him.....Try your best to keep a husnuzaan with the intention of your fellow brother in Islam... InshaAllah soon.. Allah will replace him with someone better .. someone who will accept you whatever you are....

Why sister ?

Can you imagine to spend rest of your life with someone who not feel compel with you ? It like nightmare and torturing yourself…..For the marriage you must be willing to give the best for your companion both in physically and spiritually fulfillment. Marriage is not game….…. It is a place of both party to feel the pleasure and enjoyment…. The peak of happiness is when you can give the best fulfillment to your spouse ... to be the coolness of his eyes... the coolness of his heart...

Sister... it would be hurt you so much.... it would be much more humiliated you if in the future when you find out your hubby thinks " My wife is too short....I didn't know if my wife too fat... I actually prefer my wife more fairer" etc...

Sister... Everyone has their own preference... The beauty itself is very relative depends on person to person preference... It may you are not considered as a beautiful girl for one suitor but you will be look so beautiful for one who Allah destined become your life partner.... inshaAllah...

Sister.... This is the nature of human being to demand and dream something.... ... Our pious brother also a human being, they are normal man who have fitrah to love beauty... It's not tarnish their quality of his deen...if they have a specific beauty in their mind for his wife to be.... Just like you also have the same right to have specific qualities for your husband to be

However... It would bring more confidence yourself if your husband knew how you look like when he moved forward to marry you... You do not need to wondering whether you would be beauty enough to your husband... because you are his choice... both outside and inward aspects....

Subhanallah.... this sunnah is to respect the marriage institution itself... To prevent the regret and disappointment in the future... The refusal it could be his good fear of Allah to mistreating you if he keep move on in marrying you ....

Dear sister ...

Strengthen your heart to keep following the guidance of Allah and His messenger salallahu alahi wassalam to get through all the procedures of the sunnah with patiently …

Dear sister … Allah knows what you feel deep down your heart when you have to move from one suitor to another suitor… When you have to smiles from one family to another family who coming to know you....….Allah knows best your patience that you have to answer the interviewer…

However sister… You still have the key in your hand.. Let other choose…. Finally you the one who decide… Allah and His Messenger give you that right … Nobody can force you to marry anyone without your agreement… InshaAllah

Allah Knows best….

Rytha
Batam 5 December 2007

to be continue inshaAllah

~Romantic Husband~

This writing to enlighten my sisters in Islam, to make them feel optimist if there are still good Muslim husbands among of them who mischief and cheat behind their wife….

Although haram love Affair spreading in our community we can’t generalize if all man are just the same, accuses all of them are hypocrite… astaghfirullah…

One sister told me

How wonderful her husband…
That day they visited a place outside the city.. They were late and missed the last bus…..So they had to walk home….

She felt so much tired and begged him to get rest for few minutes…Her husband said… she would die if she stop, she has to keep moving because the weather was so cold…keep moving will keep them warm…But she stopped and just couldn’t walk again…

Sisters.. You know what her husband did ?
He carried her [if not wrong he carried her on his back]….
That was quite long walk…She felt sorry for him.. and asked her husband to let her down…

But he said…“No…it's a practice to me…. It's practice for jihad.. if one day I go for jihad and I have to carry my injury brother, how could I feel tired and left him down…”

MashaAllah…so sweet…

Another sister shared me…

That day she was sick, she got vomit so many times….Her husband beside her whole day and night to take care of her, he lost his sleep…He patiently cleaned all what she vomit from her stomach without feel any disgust, in fact she herself feel so much disgust.

He carried her on his hands while she felt so much heavy to walk herself…..

She said to me… that one great thing if marrying a pious husband who love you… he will always take care of you…and always feel pain that you feel…

Another sister
She was in very nervous because her husband came home late..She called all people that she know to ask if they know where her husband.

What was inside her mind was very worry, not suspicious feeling. Because after years of their marriage never once he came late without inform her…That was the first time.

Alhamdulillah her husband finally came up. That day there was heavy rain…he was stuck in somewhere, he couldn’t call his wife because her cellular low battery.

They have so wonderful life. They share all things…, they use the same cellular number, use the same email address. Never let any secret behind… They like two bodies one soul who share all things together…

MashaAllah….

Rasulullah sallahu alahi wassalam said that " the Believers who show the most perfect Faith are those who have the best behavior, and the best of you are those who are the best to their wives." [At- Tirmidhi]. Narrated by Abu Hurairah

See sisters…..
The good man indeed still exists…
Some of them already married…. :)..
But inshaAllah be patience… Allah will make you meet one of them soon….

"……Our Lord! Grant unto us spouse and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous." Ameen

Rytha
Batam 14 March 2007